no_radar Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Right here goes; Im a 21 yr old male I met a girl in february at work (we no longer work at the place we met) and subsequently swapped numbers, since then we have been texting regularly. We both live very busy lives being in our second year of uni and both holding down 2 jobs as well, but we have been out for drinks once where she was sitting close to me and laughing at all my jokes, as well as some serious deep conversation. I couldnt try putting my arm around her and stuff to judge her reaction as I had my arm in a cast at the time. We have both tried to get each other out for drinks again since but the other has been working or busy. The other day she text me saying 'I have a proposition for you, would you like to come to a festival with me?' I said I would love to but couldnt afford it, she rang me later and said she had got the tickets and got her mum to pay and I would pay her back, to which i agreed! We are still texting regularly and are going to the festival in about 3 weeks, but im not sure if its as friends or if there is something more......I really like her!! Someone I know who went to school with her said she used to be BI at school and sleep with girls although I havent been told that has been the case in recent years. She also text me tonight and asked to go for drinks but I have no money as i rent my own place and have lots of bills, where as she still lives with her parents. So i said i couldnt as im broke, to which she replied 'let down! Xx' I would like to know whether you lovely people thinks she likes me, or if she is just wanting to be friends? Is there anything i can look out for as we dont get to see each other often and im trying to judge by what she says to me whether she likes me or not? Any input is much appreciated. Thanks
Quiet Storm Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I think she likes you. One tip: Stop pointing out how broke you are. Instead, find things in your area that are free (the beach, a walk in the park, a bike ride) and invite HER on a date. 1
Author no_radar Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 Thanks for your input, I've always been awful at gauging whether girls like me or not, ive always either missed opportunities with girls that really like me or gone for a girl that has no interest in me. Definitely agree about the whole broke part and not referring to it all the time. any further thoughts from people very welcome
ivalm Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Thanks for your input, I've always been awful at gauging whether girls like me or not, ive always either missed opportunities with girls that really like me or gone for a girl that has no interest in me. Definitely agree about the whole broke part and not referring to it all the time. any further thoughts from people very welcome She likes you and you should invite her to dates that cost no/little money...
darkmoon Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 "Someone I know who went to school with her said she used to be BI" if i were her i'd be angry to know my boyf was listening to any unproven tat
Author no_radar Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 I'm not her boyf thats the point, i'm not sure if she sees me as a friend or if she is interested romantically. I've only known her 3 months and we dont share any of the same group of friends, this BI thing is just what ive been told, i wouldnt care either way, i really like her and feel totally at ease when im around her.
LoveAshley Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I am pretty sure she likes you as more than friends, and you seem like a great guy, but I agree you should stop mentioning your being broke. Even if it's true which is completely understandable because lots of people are broke right now, it could easily put her off. She might think you aren't that interested. I have friends who constantly say "Can't...no money" at the slightest thing and sometimes it makes me think they are either not interested in the offer or that they are lazy when it comes to working or trying to find some other alternative. When I'm broke and someone invites me to something I really want to do, I say, "Well I'm low on money but I'll see what I can do." Then I'll see about putting something I have for sale on craigslist, borrowing from a family member or friend, or seeing about getting extra hours at work so I can afford whatever it is.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Dont worry about whether or not she likes you. Until you try to kiss her, you may never know. And the longer you wait, the more likely she will friend zone you. usually women touch you when they like you, and get close. But she could be just touchy feely. So try to kiss her, very soon, before festival, and if she recoils, then you know she isnt romantically into you. Hurry up!
Author no_radar Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 Well ive just text her to see if she fancies taking the dogs for a walk along the beach sunday evening, we live in the east of our country so the sun sets right on the beach. Its FREE so i'll see what she says thanks people. 1
Author no_radar Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 she just got back to me and would love to go on sunday night, you guys are good, even if it is just making me do what I already new I should have done. cheers 1
Sid6.7 Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Why the hell would you ever ask a female for dating advice? Stop it.
spiderowl Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 She likes you and wants to spend time with you. I suppose my only concerns are that she's bi (if what others say is true and that's not easy to check without asking her directly) and she committed you to paying money you'd already said you hadn't got. That would bother me actually. It shows she's quite controlling. But you like her so I guess you'll see where this goes. If she's really bi though, you will have competition from women. Some guys would think that's a great idea but I do know two guys who lost their wives to a girlfriend and I don't think they were so pleased about it.
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