loveisagame Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 (edited) I'm one of the many curious people... That's all. Edited June 8, 2012 by loveisagame
JasonRules Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I'm one of the many curious people... That's all. There is only one way to get him back and this is only if you were good to him and everything was fine. Leave him alone, don't contact him, and let the girl he's with start messing up. Once she starts messing up he will immediately begin to think of you. The more time he hasn't heard from you the more his curiosity will peak. Months maybe years will go by, but eventually you will hear from him. 2
babycrapgreen Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 There is only one way to get him back and this is only if you were good to him and everything was fine. Leave him alone, don't contact him, and let the girl he's with start messing up. Once she starts messing up he will immediately begin to think of you. The more time he hasn't heard from you the more his curiosity will peak. Months maybe years will go by, but eventually you will hear from him. So, what do you do when he does contact you?
JasonRules Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 So, what do you do when he does contact you? In my case all my exes contacted me after they broke up with me. At the time they were breaking up with me I was a mess. I would had done anything to be with them. However, now that months/years have passed I have absolutely no feelings for them. I remember the good times, but then I always remember how they treated me during the bad times and immediately snap back to reality. I do not hate them, but I have lost respect for them, taken them down from the pedestal I placed them, totally lost faith and can never trust them again no matter if they came to me crying and begging on their knees (one of my exes did apologize in front of me crying telling me how wonderful I was to her, but that she treated me so badly, while asking me if I was single). For me, once they decide to break the glass it is over forever. I will never ever take them back. 2
greenz Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 When he contacts you, you have to make sure that he is serious and not just testing the waters. He has to really want you. You gave in easily the first time, you can't make it too easy the second time.
araja Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 When he contacts you, you have to make sure that he is serious and not just testing the waters. He has to really want you. You gave in easily the first time, you can't make it too easy the second time. So my ex and I are boken up because he started dating (no sex according to him) behind my back while we were dating (including sex). I busted him and he broke up with me for her. The complication here is that they had dated before briefly in the past, she broke it off then and now a few weeks back she suddenly re-appeared before him (apparently after some soul searching and therapy). I doubt he told her about me when they started dating. From everything I've heard she's enamoured with him. She wants a long term relationships with kids in the future. He has said that he will not have more kids but he's telling her he will have them with her. (We have a mutual friend) What are the chance of their relationship working given he's seems like he's lying to her? Do relationship built on lies work? I want him back. Crazy, I know but I love him.
M30USA Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 My soon-to-be-ex-wife is doing this very thing to me now. Playing distant and not contacting me. And here's the thing: she's the one who assaulted me and got arrested. I think she's playing the typical role of an ex who is trying to look appealing by staying distant, but what she DOESN'T realize is that she owes me an apology. I don't care if she's a girl. Girls can admit wrong. The guy doesn't always have to take it up the you-know-what.
Gulf-Delta Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 In my case all my exes contacted me after they broke up with me. At the time they were breaking up with me I was a mess. I would had done anything to be with them. However, now that months/years have passed I have absolutely no feelings for them. I remember the good times, but then I always remember how they treated me during the bad times and immediately snap back to reality. I do not hate them, but I have lost respect for them, taken them down from the pedestal I placed them, totally lost faith and can never trust them again no matter if they came to me crying and begging on their knees (one of my exes did apologize in front of me crying telling me how wonderful I was to her, but that she treated me so badly, while asking me if I was single). For me, once they decide to break the glass it is over forever. I will never ever take them back. That's your choice, of course. But for some couple's there WERE no bad times until the breakup. BTW, mended bones are usually stronger after they break
fucpcg Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I remember the good times, but then I always remember how they treated me during the bad times and immediately snap back to reality. . His post overall pretty much similar to my experiences. This statement is what is pushing me over my ex, and putting her in my rearview mirror. Her actions since the split have been continuously thoughtless, nasty, uncalled for. The longer she acts like this, the less I feel like wanting to try again. When we were together I loved her like no other, and thought she felt similar, but her actions during and since the split are not ones of love. For first time in 15 months, I feel I wouldn't take her back, and it's only because for 15 months her treatment of me has been dreadful.
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