Username1012 Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Okay I know I'm probably repeating a lot of stories others have already shared on here but to be honestly I really just need a place to rant because I am so pissed off. Okay so my story is: We dated for four months (i know, short period of time, but it doesnt make this hurt any less) We didn't go to the same school and met through work. I found out last night from a coworker that he started to date someone else a week after dumping me. I know who she is, and they were friends before we started dating, and he never gave me any reason to suspect something was wrong. He went to her bday party while we were still dating and literally three days later he dumps me. It all seems to make sense now. Like I remember him constantly asking me if I was cheating on him and I noticed a difference his behavior about a month before we split. I feel completely lied to. I mean like looking back hindsight is always 20/20 like he never intrpduced me to friends, never really asked me to go anywhere with him, he was always "grounded"...He would tell me he loved me and that I had nothing to worry about and blah blah blah- obliviously he didn't and I did have alot to worry about. It's been about six weeks since we broke up and I was just wondering if I should confront him or not? Like let him know I know? Ps- he starting dating her a week after he dumped me but that same week he was asking me for a second chance?? WTF
Philosoraptor Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Rather than being upset about this try to look on the brightside... you're away from that mess. Imagine how bad it would have been had you gotten back together with him. 3
babycrapgreen Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I wouldn't confront him, I know you want to let out your anger somehow. But, try to take yourself out of the situation, imagine a girl confronting an ex for cheating her?... It doesn't accomplish anything, I think, except venting. Your ex, obviously, won't feel remorseful since he cheated on you in the first place. I've confronted a guy before, my ex cheated on me, yelled and slapped him. Yeah, it felt good for that moment but, it didn't take away the hurt. The "why?" questions and the feelings of inadequacies. It took me a good 6 months to understand it, I'm never getting over a cheating, but, I'm over him. And, there's cuter and more successful men out there. I started working out, feeling better about myself, concentrated on me. Worked hard in my career and my friends. Started dating again. I feel a lot better. 1
geegirl Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I was just wondering if I should confront him or not? Like let him know I know? Ps- he starting dating her a week after he dumped me but that same week he was asking me for a second chance?? WTF Do not confront him. He is unemotional about this so whatever you say will mean absolutely nothing to him. Dumpees project hurt feelings thinking the dumper will be affected or have remorse but they don't because they're occupied with someone else and your feelings are not their responsibility anymore. Plus, if he cheats, I'd have to say he's void of a conscience so he doesn't care what you think or feel. Even if you told him you know, he'll counter that with excuses and that you have it all wrong. Nothing will come out of it except that he will roll his eyes and view you as bitter and affected. 1
robkris8079 Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Congratulations!!!!!!!!! You are one of the lucky ones who has gotten a reason and closure. Now move on with your life.
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