Eternal Sunshine Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Say you had one online "meet-up" with someone and you have no interest in pursuing anything further for whatever reason. I know you are not owed anyone anything after the first meet-up....but say another person texts you or e-mails you and expresses interest. Is it easier for them to just do nothing i.e. ignore them? Or send them a quick text "it was nice to meet you, but I don't feel we have enough in common". What's easier on the ego for the guys? (just so I can do the opposite , just kidding )
Philosoraptor Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Personally I would rather be rejected than have to wonder. Just be honest with people and at the very least you will have nothing to feel guilty about.
SJC2008 Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 The responses will be 50/50 as to wheter it would be the right thing to do. I'm a strait shooter and would rather get a rejection then a blow off. Blow offs boil my blood for some reason. I'd say "Thanks for taking the time to meet me and good luck to you". If they reply asking why and all that stuff then you ignore.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 My instinct is to send something (as I would like a response if I was in the same situation); This guy responded with: No worries it was great meeting you too.. I'm glad you were honest & let me know about it & didn't string me along. Wish you all the best too... And hey, if ever you feel like you need a friend...you know how to find me Take Care, I guess in this case it was the right thing to do.
Kamille Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I hate rejecting people, but so far, I've been upfront with every guy I've met and they've all answered pretty much the same way your date did. If the situation was reversed, I think I would also like a guy to be upfront with me, as soon as possible.
zengirl Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Be upfront. Some people will react badly, but most understand and would prefer that to The Fade or a blow off or being ignored. Some people will react badly no matter what you do, but if you behave well, then you can hold your head up high.
JuneJulySeptember Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Or send them a quick text "it was nice to meet you, but I don't feel we have enough in common". That's fine. Or 'I don't think we're on the same page.' That one is nice and vague too. No normal adult man will have his ego crushed by getting rejected from a woman he barely knows.
veggirl Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 This is posted quite often and *if* I remember correctly, polite rejection was always the majority opinion I figure I'd do what I'd want done to me--I wouldn't wanna be left hanging! One polite text response saying you're not interested and then leave it at that--I wouldn't be getting into lengthy explanations or talks about being friends or anything like that. After the first text, it's fine to ignore I think.
musemaj11 Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 No worries it was great meeting you too.. I'm glad you were honest & let me know about it & didn't string me along. Wish you all the best too... And hey, if ever you feel like you need a friend...you know how to find me Take Care, No wonder this loser of a nice guy got rejected.
joystickd Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 An honest rejection is better than a rejection by omission.
LittlePrince Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Say you had one online "meet-up" with someone and you have no interest in pursuing anything further for whatever reason. I know you are not owed anyone anything after the first meet-up....but say another person texts you or e-mails you and expresses interest. Is it easier for them to just do nothing i.e. ignore them? Or send them a quick text "it was nice to meet you, but I don't feel we have enough in common". What's easier on the ego for the guys? (just so I can do the opposite , just kidding ) Being shot out of a canon.
El Brujo Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 I wouldn't even bother with them in the first place.
carhill Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 I prefer rejection but nothing has historically been the predominant answer.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted June 9, 2012 Author Posted June 9, 2012 I wouldn't even bother with them in the first place. You are probably right
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