Does goodbye really mean goodbye?

[noodlecheese]

I'm so confused, and so very heartbroken at the moment. And its all because my ex made contact with me.

We had said goodbye prior to her contacting me -- and I thought that was it. I thought I could finally let her go and start living my life. She was my first love and it hurt very much, but I was determined to move on. I could feel myself healing as I lived in the present, making the best out of every opportunity. I ignored the fact that she had moved on and was with someone else, as I started to just be myself again. But since she made contact me, I feel so screwed over, and so very f***ed.

 

Why do exes do this? Why can't goodbyes just mean goodbye forever? Of course there will always be feelings there, a memory, connection and history -- but why reach out when we said goodbye? I just don't understand. I feel low and lost, not to mention angry.

I don't think I will understand this s***.

 

So, does goodbye really mean goodbye? Or does goodbye mean goodbye for now?

[TaraMaiden]

The best clue I can give you is to read the New Caliguy No contact Guide in my signature.

What she did was to gratify and appease her own guilt in the matter and make herself feel like the "good guy" by contacting you and throwing you breadcrumbs.

 

Please read the guide thoroughly.

It's absolutely spot-on, and you have to read it, mark it, inwardly digest it and implement it, 100% - 100% of the time.

Do precisely as it says - don't argue - and I guarantee, you will heal more quickly.

[Philosoraptor]

Goodbye often means they know they want to leave. The issue is that it's hard to quit anything cold turkey so people often come back as they feel a void. They leave again later as it comes back around and they see that this person was again, not what they wanted and they truly did want to leave.