soju Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 (edited) I'm assuming my ex gf has gigs, she just walked out with no explanation. We have been broken up since January, and she has done the whole 180 and oat soating. So during this breakup we have had little contact, about last week she tells me she misses me so much, and she needs me. And just today she told me she loves me and wants to work things out, and later the same night she makes it official with a guy she has been spending time with. Id appreciate some advice from you gigs experts please. Oh and were were together for 2 years and lives together for over a year, I bought her a promise ring and we talked about marriage and a family together. Edited June 8, 2012 by soju
tallydoo Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Keep no contact. Clearly she's not actually ready to work things out, and right now she's not respecting you as a person; make sure that she does that before you even consider getting back with her. So don't reach out, and don't talk to her unless she makes it clear that she really does want you back, and not as a safety net, which means not before she breaks up with this new guy and probably not until she's been single for a few months. Take the time to pick up some new hobbies and make some new stories, and as you heal you'll be a better, more complete version of yourself for her to come back to (IF she does at the right time in both your lives) or for someone new. But right now, try really hard not to think about her and just focus on YOU; she's not coming back anytime soon, if ever.
greenz Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Well, she will never come back on her own. Girls need a reason to come back as in you need to prove yourself to her. She wants a strong man, someone better than who she is with. I would say that you should ask her why is she seeing someone else if she really loves you. Just ask her straight out about what she's thinking. Then take time for yourself. Get stronger. Maybe make an attempt to win her back or maybe find someone else.
Stanza Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 I'd agree with the show your colours - go out there and show her what you have to offer if she comes back, as from what I can tell it's about 6 months and that comes over as crucial to me. She might now be on the fence as she needs to see what will be different or better to come back to?
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