Billy1987 Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 (edited) I decided to start using dating websites a few months ago. I have to say I have been shocked at the amount of married men using it as a tool to try and discretely cheat on their wives! Most of them fortunately are honest about it. It came to a head after I starting dating a guy that I really liked. We got on well, lots in common, seemed to want the same things long term. He had told me he was divorced, that he had been forced into an arranged marriage. Anyway cut a long story short, we ended up having a few mutual friends in common! Small world:) Not only was he married, but he was selling this story to other women on the website. Shocking when he really did come across as so caring. Anyone else having any similar experiences? Edited June 8, 2012 by Billy1987
Ruby Slippers Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 From what I've seen, at least half the guys online have some major problem or are just looking for easy sex. I get messages from married guys fairly often. And I'm thinking, "Who says yes to these creeps?" 1
Author Billy1987 Posted June 9, 2012 Author Posted June 9, 2012 I was hoping, that like me, some people were just busy and fancied a different way of meeting people, but I just can't beleieve what I've found out about men. It's making me wonder... are there any sincere men out there? They all seem to be looking for some sort of 'arrangment' where only they seek to benefit.
d'Arthez Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 I was hoping, that like me, some people were just busy and fancied a different way of meeting people, but I just can't beleieve what I've found out about men. It's making me wonder... are there any sincere men out there? They are there. Problem with dating sites is that people often tell what they think the other wants to hear. Honesty is often in short supply. And that counts for both women and men. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 (edited) It's making me wonder... are there any sincere men out there? I went on a good first date last night with a guy who seems very sincere. His online dating profile is simple and says he's looking for a real relationship, and marriage eventually. Every single interaction we've had has been straight-shooting and consistent. When he says he's going to call me on Tuesday, he calls me on Tuesday. When he says he'll be there for the date at 7:30, he's there at the bar at 7:15 having a drink. He said he gets the "you're a great guy, but..." line fairly often, and he thinks it might be because he brings no drama, plays no games, and doesn't want any of that in his life. He said he'll be himself and be patient until he finds someone who's on the same page about that - which I definitely am. It's been so refreshing to date a guy who is just as transparent, honest, and sincere as I am. Who knows if we're a real match, but so far, he stands heads and shoulders above every other guy I've met or interacted with, simply for being so honest and consistent about his intentions. Edited June 10, 2012 by Ruby Slippers 2
PhillyDude Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 From what I've seen, at least half the guys online have some major problem or are just looking for easy sex. I get messages from married guys fairly often. And I'm thinking, "Who says yes to these creeps?" your no doesn't mean anything if they are already getting daily sex. So the point is somebody is saying YES lol
LittlePrince Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 From what I've seen, at least half the guys online have some major problem or are just looking for easy sex. I get messages from married guys fairly often. And I'm thinking, "Who says yes to these creeps?" and you are using the same services as these guys with major problems who are just looking for easy sex so what does that say about you? Doesn't that mean like them you have major problems and are just looking for easy sex? It is amazing how people will denigrate others who use a service they use themselves and can't see at all how their criticisms equally apply to them. 1
Author Billy1987 Posted June 10, 2012 Author Posted June 10, 2012 I don't think that's what she was saying little princess. Both men and women on there lie for sure. I went on the sites as a different way of meeting people that were looking for a relationship. I think we have both been surprised by what we found. Ruby has a point, a lot of the guys I have spoken to, and I'm sure it's as true for some of the women on there too, are just not right in the head! It's not services for arrangments, or sex, it's about having a busy life, but still wanting to find someone to share it with.
FitChick Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 The same people who use dating sites are the same ones who date (or used to) in real life. If you met them in real life they would not be any different. You have to use your own common sense to know who is sincere and who isn't. 1
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