hiimgerman Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Hi I think I'm a pretty okay guy. I mean I'm normal, funny, kind, well-behaved when I'm with my friends, but when I like someone I just dunno how to be myself. I get tongue tied and dunno what to say to her. Can't crack jokes and run out of things to say. I get extremely quiet and all I do is doing her favors i.e. giving her stuff and driving her. Plus I get carried away and neglect other parts of my life. All my focus is on her. It gives her a lot of pressure and she finds me weird and feels awkward hanging out with me. So, question is, how does one behave like one's normal self around someone he/she likes?
cloud81 Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Well it's you who is putting the pressure on it, not her. If you think of it, aren't you a bit sick already of having to think, pretend and all that? Just go with the flow
Author hiimgerman Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 Yea but how do I stop myself from being nervous and go with the flow?
Seneca Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Step 1: Remember to breathe. Breathe in a 4 count, hold 4, and breathe out 8 count. Your brain needs oxygen to think. When you see something that excites you (like a girl you like)... what usually happens? You start breathing in shallow breathes. So be aware of your breathing. Step 2: Don't be attached to the outcome. Be carefree and stop caring about the results. Similar to Eastern Philosophy of unattachment. Step 3: Talk to everyone. Practice being social with everyone and it will become a habit that carries forward when you start talking to the hot girls you like. Step 4: If all else fails, give her my phone number and I will straighten her out. 1
Author hiimgerman Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 Step 1: Remember to breathe. Breathe in a 4 count, hold 4, and breathe out 8 count. Your brain needs oxygen to think. When you see something that excites you (like a girl you like)... what usually happens? You start breathing in shallow breathes. So be aware of your breathing. Step 2: Don't be attached to the outcome. Be carefree and stop caring about the results. Similar to Eastern Philosophy of unattachment. Step 3: Talk to everyone. Practice being social with everyone and it will become a habit that carries forward when you start talking to the hot girls you like. Step 4: If all else fails, give her my phone number and I will straighten her out. Yea she's asking for your number now
amantis Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 why are you nervous ? are you virgin ? are you afraid to lose her ? tell me why cant you go with the flow like you say
Author hiimgerman Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 why are you nervous ? are you virgin ? are you afraid to lose her ? tell me why cant you go with the flow like you say Yea I tend to want to impress her because I'm afraid of losing her if she thinks I'm boring. And I do usually end up being boring
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