freetolove Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 There's an old co worker of mine who I've had a major crush on forever. I GET absolutely nervous when I'm around him (This is actually pretty fun for me because I usually don't get this excited) anyway, he moved to another state but visits about 2x/year. I finally confessed one year later and he was surprised that I actually liked him. He's about 17 years older. It's just a crush and we usually flirt back and fourth. I don't see myself in a relationship with him (I have no idea how he feels but I remember when he found out about my age he pulled back a bit). However, I would be be happy with a one night stand. I mentioned it as a possibility (half jokingly) and he agreed to it. Last time we went out for wine but he didn't make a move. I thought perhaps he's not interested in me, but he would send me these racey texts that obviously tells me that there's some sexual interest. He made it out here another time but only made time to see me for 20 mins, I decided not to because I was busy that day. I was frustrated because we had planned a trip together. So I just left it alone, he later contacted and start flirting with me which is fun but WHY DOESN"T HE JUST SLEEP WITH ME????
d'Arthez Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Because he is married and / or otherwise involved? Because he fears you might develop an attraction to him, since you are obviously giving out a massive amount of signals (such as being ready to settle down)? Just a few guesses
Author freetolove Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 He's not married. I know him pretty well and I never mentioned anything about settling down with him nor do I have an interest in settling down with him because we live so far apart.
Author freetolove Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 hmm you're might, he might be involved with someone else, but then why the messages and endless flirting? (I don't initiate any of it)
d'Arthez Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 For fun. He may see flirting as a rather harmless thing to do. I have flirted with a married woman for years, in the full knowledge that it was just that. Completely harmless. I would not even contemplate getting involved with her for any kind of sexual arrangement (technically we could, since we are both single). The flirtation may simply be a way of him killing time with you?
Author freetolove Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 bummer, so I will not get to sleep with him =(
d'Arthez Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I would not count on it, and if it does happen, it will be on his terms. Which may not be exactly that agreeable to you. I'd say just give him a miss, and focus on what you really want in your life.
Author freetolove Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 It's a one night stand! What is there not to agree on?!?!
Author freetolove Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 I usually move about my life (love life and all) but he just has his way of sneaking up on me for whatever reason. are you sure there's absolutely nothing I can do to convince him otherwise?
d'Arthez Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 He may fear that you develop feelings as I indicated in an earlier post. Also some people who flirt, and can flirt excessively are not that comfortable with the concept of ONS (me being one of them), let alone having one. Other than really putting in the effort to get there (and that goes against the whole principle of ONS)? Probably nothing you can do. Don't let one fvk / non-fvk define your life.
d'Arthez Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 It is a way to render F U C K while bypassing the word censor.
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