phoenixlights Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 (edited) Seemingly good night, not too crazy a day at work, got to do the one night a week band practice, came home and watched some TV with my fiance, wound down and got ready for bed. She comes in and starts complaining that her job is treating her unfairly. She works at a large retail store doing signage/pricing and the big weekly day they forgot to schedule anybody to work with her. Now they're supposedly scheduling her a late shift (til 10pm) and an early shift (6am) back to back. I just looked at her schedule, and it didn't actually look like they did that, except maybe next Saturday. Anyway, she regressed to complaining about how I "got everything handed to me, my job, my career, my education, my music" and she'll never get anything she wants. But the reality is I've worked my butt off for everything I have. She can't say she doesn't ever get anything - she just had her college debt paid off as a graduation present from her father in addition to giving her enough money to buy a really nice professional camera since she has a photography business on the side, plus he helped us out with a downpayment on our condo last year, plus he's giving us a big chunk of change for our wedding. I try to be the most supportive I can be, but she accuses me of not being supportive because I'm not trying to get her name out there for her. I tried explaining that if she's unhappy (as I've done before in the situation three times before now) that she should quit her job if it makes her that unhappy and that I want her to be happy. I then tried explaining, since she claims she's always had sh*tty jobs (usually when they ask her to work a little more than she wants), that if she changes her career from retail, by becoming a creative writer or photographer professionally, she will have to start over and pay her dues again, thus working more crap jobs, but at least in her field. I paid my dues working at a deli 4 years through college and at any career job I've had since then, grunt work, learning curve, probationary period, yearly review until I'm trusted that I can do my job well. That pissed her off boy and I didn't even get to finish half of what I just explained here. I need to learn when not to be so blunt in sensitive situations. I've tried helping her look for jobs before but she never is into anything I suggest or if she applies she doesn't have the experience to get the job. So even though I try to be supportive with her life and everything to make her life easier, I'm an unsupportive jerk in her eyes because of what I said. She's now left our house at 12:45am, not sure where. She's done this many times before and threatened that its over, but she always comes back. It just seems like every 6-8 months she's in and out of a job, and this job up until now she's claimed she loves and gets paid decently and gets good benefits and vacation time. I know she doesn't want to stay in retail forever, and she shouldn't especially if she wants to get into photography or writing professionally, it just seems like she's jealous that I've established my career, and in her eyes she thinks it was just given to me and I did nothing for it. Edited June 8, 2012 by phoenixlights
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