Kae2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 (edited) I am the divorced mom of two children. My youngest child(2yrs) is by my current B/F. I use the B/f word lightly here b/c I am starting to see some disturbing behavior. From the beginning my b/f exibited anger issues. So, we had some problems and he got help. We have no court ordered child support b/c we loosely worked something out. He insisted he would not pay child support or be a weekend dad and that he would pay for child care in lieu of paying for child support. Ok, I agreed..reluctanlty. He gave me a credit card for buying anything for our child. When it is my weekend I notice he gets annoyed, depressed if I do not bring her to see him. So, I oblige and bring her over to see him for a few hours on MY weekends. He has a way of being a bully too. But I digress, our daughter is old enough now to talk about her older sister's dad. Recently in a car ride somewhere(older sister was not in car) our daughter started talking about my ex-husband. She was talking about how her sister's dad comes by to get her sister etc. I looked at my b/f's face and he was clearly annoyed. I tried to distract him once she stopped talking and started up some small chit chat and he had only a one answer response. So, today I asked if if he was annoyed by our daughter talking about my ex-husband. His response was "I dont' have a comment about the whole thing". ...silence. So, I told him we need to talk about this over the weekend and he agreed. But really folks, why would our daughter talking about my ex-husband be an issue?. My ex-husband and I only communicate when it has to do with our daughter. My ex-husband comes to my home to pick up his child so of course he see's me and b/f's child at the house. What is a reasonable response to my B/f about this?. I am so tired of getting anxious when my ex-husband comes by to get his daughter. I'm always worried about how upset my b/f will get if he shows up at the same time my ex-husband does. Mind you the B/f doesn't SAY anything when he see's my ex-husband but the look on his face is always one of anger/hostility. My ex-husband even said to me one day "why does he always look pissed off". My b/f is also a cop and I can honestly say I am afraid of him when he gets extremly angry. Please help. Edited June 8, 2012 by Kae2012
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