avon20 Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 So the woman I have been talking to on the phone for awhile might be a rare breed. We talked about meeting and I told her I am in no hurry to meet. As a matter of fact I could probably go up to 2 years talking on the phone with her and never meet. That's basically what I told her. I do not feel a desperate need to meet her anytime soon. She seems to be fine with this arrangement. However I know deep down this arrangement will not last forever no matter which way we slice it or dice it. I would love to have this arrangement indefinitely since I have no desire for marriage or kids or sexual intimacy with a woman. I do not know this woman's interest level in me and where she stands. I know women fall in love slowly if they fall in love with me at all. So the fact that she is okay with this arrangement is a sign that she is not all that into me. Which means she is using me as an emotional bandaid guy until she finds a guy she actually likes. Once that happens there will be no more phone calls. If on the other hand she is building genuine romantic interest in me then at some point she is going to want to meet and it will likely be before 2 years from now. If this scenario is what is really going on then I won't be ready to meet when she wants to meet. In which case she will stop calling me, lose interest and move on. So in either of the above 2 scenarios I am damned either way. This arrangement won't last regardless if there is genuine interest on her part or not. When a woman is truly into a guy then at some point she is going to want a commitment from him. If she does not care that he won't commit then she does not love him. She is using him. So I don't know where she stands with me. Maybe I should just continue to call her and enjoy our conversations while they last.
FitChick Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Why bother? Join a forum for asexual people so you won't waste anyone's time, including your own.
Author avon20 Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 Wasting other people's time is a fair point but I don't see myself wasting my own time. So if I am not all that concerned about how my time is being wasted then neither should anyone else. Here's the thing. When a woman truly develops feelings for a man then it will only be natural for her to want to spend more time with him as time goes on. So if this girl does not care that I do not want to see her more than once a month then at best it must mean she only likes me as a best friend. So in all likelihood I am in the friend-zone with this girl. So it shouldn't matter if I decide to go 3 months without seeing her. She isn't going to miss me. But on the other hand if her feelings start to grow for me she is going to want to spend more time together. I am not willing to give her more time and then eventually she loses interest in me and puts me in the friend-zone. So in either scenario I end up in the friend-zone in the final analysis. That much we do know. I know that I am not willing to see my girlfriend more than once a month.
InJest Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Get a life, and for ****'s sake, stop being so melodramatic. Pansy.
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