faux Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 I don't want to recap completely, but for any who were interested, you will know that the girl I had been seeing with the child didn't exactly work out. She's still interested in dating, and being intimate, however I am backing away as she is interested in doing this with myself and someone she works with. This doesn't settle with me. It means something that she likes me as "more than a friend" and "wants to be intimate", but it doesn't feel right to me. I did mope for a day, but then I just started to cheer up and try to get out more. It paid off, and I have two possible dates scheduled for this week. One is for tomorrow, and I'm certainly looking forward to it. The other is as of yet unscheduled, and it may or may not work out. The point is, however, that she did say "Yes" and took my number, as well as invited me to visit her where she works to schedule something. I suppose things are looking up for me. I just got out there, started to talk and flirt, and I'm having no trouble meeting new people. I suppose I really should not get so down about my appearance, intelligence, or charisma! I am essentially proud of how, instead of moping, or remaining in a bad situation like I used to do in the past, I am moving on and not feeling icky in the least. Perhaps it may seem wrong to some, that after having an interest in one person for a few months, I am suddenly out seeking to meet new people. This, to me, is healthier, and to me seems right. Right now I'm excited about my date for tomorrow I thought I would just give a heads up to let people know I'm doing quite well. Being single is actually kind of fun... I'm in a good position and I like meeting new people. Maybe I won't be single too long, eh?
CurlyIam Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 Hi, faux Sorry it didn't work out with Danielle. If you are uncomfortable with her seeing anyone else besides you, you should tell her, maybe she'll choose to dump the guy ?!? I know, a bit too late for that! I don't know what to tell you about dating, the first time I started dating after my ex... I found it weird! I hated the novelty, the insecurity, all the... "new" part ! Anyway, it was indeed very new to me. Then I grew to quite enjoy it, really! Just as long that you don't think of them as "dates", but as time spent with someone, hopefully quality time, it's ok. But may I suggest you taking it slower with the dating and stuff? If your ex was special to you, you could use some time cooling down. I know different people react in different ways, but make peace with it, if you feel like it and then... then, when you're sure that door is closed, you can move to dating. Just a though, you know!
Author faux Posted June 29, 2004 Author Posted June 29, 2004 I'm actually comfortable with the idea of dating. Danielle and I hadn't been seeing that much of one another, and it wasn't an exclusive relationship. There was miscommunication on her part, as she would rather assume how I felt or how much I was interested in her, as opposed to asking me. Like I said, she wants the best of both worlds — to have sex with me and this other guy as well. I think right now in my life I am going to play things by ear. I think it's probably best that I go out and meet new people, and I'm comfortable with it. I don't plan on getting intimate again until I find someone who definitely feels the same was as I do, and can show me that she is willing to communicate. I didn't do well with Danielle's indecisiveness and assumptions. To save myself from getting hurt, I don't plan on becoming close with Danielle anymore.
lydiamarie Posted June 29, 2004 Posted June 29, 2004 I suppose I really should not get so down about my appearance, intelligence, or charisma! you write such great posts, so it's hard for me to believe that you're lacking intelligence or charisma. and if that's you in your avatar, then you needn't be worried about your appearance either good luck on your date(s) (...and props to you for listening to your instincts)
Author faux Posted June 30, 2004 Author Posted June 30, 2004 I sincerely appreciate the compliments My date went absolutely wonderfully. It started at 1:30 in the afternoon and ended, well 1:30 in the morning We talked, laughed, and she got along great with some of my friends. We're definitely going to see each other again, and it turns out she lives ten minutes walking distance from me. I love how nothing went past kissing, and I like the fact that she is a virgin, as I really feel that I do NOT want to become intimate with anyone for a long time, until it truly feels right and it is within a committed relationship. I'd have to say she's captivated me and I'm looking forward to seeing her next week. She admitted to me similar captivation. As much time as we spent hugging on a park bench, there was some amazing conversation happening, which is paramount for me. It's cute that she is shorter than me at 5'. I thought I was short at 5'5" Only down side so far: She dislikes coffee and cannot agree that I dislike chocolate. Quirks will come with time, however.
avsguy01 Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 Glad to hear you had a good time. Thats all you need right now is to have a good time. Other stuff will come later. I wouldnt let the coffee thing down ya too much...ha ha!! Shoot my gf hates coffee too, and she hates it soooo bad that she pefers not to kiss me right after i drink it
lydiamarie Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 yay for short girls!! she's captivated me i used to love the thought of being adored, but now i think it's a tie with captivating someone now i'm going to defend the girl and say that coffee is an aquired taste (like american beer ) and it is in our blood to love chocolate (although i'm not a fan of chocolate cake-in case you wanted to displace your phone number or SSN with that bit of useless information )
Leikela Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 I think that's great that you've moved on AND met someone great in the process! Good for you! We all have to meet the wrong people first in order to know the difference when we meet the right one! Best of luck to you!
Author faux Posted June 30, 2004 Author Posted June 30, 2004 Originally posted by lydiamarie yay for short girls!! i used to love the thought of being adored, but now i think it's a tie with captivating someone I usually end up going for people who are taller, but that is because most everyone is taller than I am! Short is adorable and cute, and cuteness tends to captivate. now i'm going to defend the girl and say that coffee is an aquired taste (like american beer ) and it is in our blood to love chocolate (although i'm not a fan of chocolate cake-in case you wanted to displace your phone number or SSN with that bit of useless information ) I eat SOME chocolate... In the form of the "not actually real" chocolate that comes in Power Bars and Met-RX bars. Occasionally I will have a chocolate muffin, but I rarely touch chocolate. I do not mind if other people enjoy it, however. Coffee is definitely an acquired taste, but you see... She won't even TRY it! Originally posted by Leikela I think that's great that you've moved on AND met someone great in the process! Good for you! We all have to meet the wrong people first in order to know the difference when we meet the right one! Best of luck to you! Well, you see it was difficult running from the police for all of this time, changing identities and whatsuch. To think the countless millions I have spent on plastic surgery and contact lenses! Granted, I liked all of the women from my past, but they didn't taste as good as I had thought when hickory smoked, and only one of them made for any half-way decent keilbasa. I mean...ummm.... Yes. You have to go through a lot of bad people before you find someone who is nifty However, I have noticed that I will run into a few people who aren't good for me, one or two who are, then a few more who aren't, and the cycle repeats. Such is life!
lydiamarie Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 an amusing post, as always faux. now you can introduce her to coffee and sex. sounds like fun just out of curiousity, how old is she?
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