zoemac Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Hey there, first of, thanks very much for clicking on this and taking the time to read this. I have just joined this website tonight as i really need you guys for some HONEST answers. dont be afraid to hurt my feelins haha!! its really important that i get honest answers so i can either move on or work on it. anyway its pretty long but ill try cut it down to the main parts. its quite detailed.... Ok... So i work part time in a shop and there is this guy who comes in on a regular basis. I never really noticed him until about 2 months ago when he approached me in a club, he came over and was like " hay you work in the shop how r ya?" at this time i obviously didnt really care so i was just like " yeah yeah and chatted for a second then said i had to go". i was actually seeing someone at that time anyway. Anyway he came in the next week or so and he acted a bit awkward but i just served him as normal. the more he kept coming in the more i started to notice him, BIGTIME. and i found out my workmate is his friend. So i found a few things out about him. I guess in girl world we all get a bit excited and fall for people, SO YEAH i fell for him BIGTIME. and like he didnt know lol. i only told my best friend. I thought this isnt going to happen until i see him in a club again if it even happens. Anyway it was really strange starting to have feelings for someone who i didnt even know, but it was weird because i felt so strongly about it. It freaked me out a bit, i just knew it was going to happen etc. anyway few weeks went by and u guessed it I SEE HIM OUT. i see him most of the night but i keep my distance, maybe the odd smile lol, and he wud do the same. there was def something between us, so weird lol. anyway ended up talking to him at the bar but i played very cool. he offered to buy me a drink and i was like NAH sure ill stick them all on my card. So we ended up talking FOR AGES in the smoking area about so much. I obviously didnt tell him i sort of knew him anyway. but he said he had noticed me loads in the shop and all. He tried to kiss me all night in the club but i didnt, ( trust me it was hard not 2) but i was obviously trying to play it good. because i know he pulls alot and didnt want to be another to his list. We ended up back at his house and stayed up chatting most of the night and listenening to music. I didnt plan on anything else but we ended up ..... seeling the deal as they call it. I never do things like that, but it just happened. I never would describe it as a one night stand as we had sort of known each other for a few months anyway. and obviously i felt id known him for a long time to. the next day we spent most of the day chatting getting on so well, we really did hit it off. anyway i left and we didnt exchange numbers but he did try and take my fone b4 i left but i kept snaching it of him. ( dont know why). but we added each other on facebook anyway. Anyway a week or so went by and i didnt hear from him etc. tbh i didnt expect to. So i see him out a week and a half later and he comes up to me and says sorry i didnt get in touch and took me to the side hand in hand and kissed me. We walked home that night and he took me down past all these rivers hand in hand ( it really was very romanticly weird lol). he sed he was quite sober aswell. He offered to walk me home but then i decidied to go back to his for a bit. we lay downstairs on his sofa and he just starred in my eyes and kissed me for like an hour. I stayed over again and same thing obviously happened but it was weird this time, it was alot more intimate this time. he never took his top of both times so i asked him why and he went soo strange, he was like noo im really not confident with my body, ( believe me hes unreal looking). Then he told me he has a scarr on his chest ( i never asked what it was) and i said i really didnt care and to take it of and its fine. ( i could tell he never really does this as he was nervous to take it off) anyway he said **** it and took it off. and said he feels really CONFORTABLE around me. we do get on so well like. just click as people do. NEXT DAY.. we just spent half the day again chatting laughing, etc etc. he didnt try anything fishy either. 2 days later, i see him out once again and he was sitting with a girl, i just walked on like, as i was with my mate. i bumped into him again at one stage and we ended up chatting again. he had lost all his mates and so had i. anyway an ex of mine was standing and came over and started a fight with me and he stepped in and told him to leave me alone and my ex nearly hit him and he was just like she doesnt want to talk to you leave her alone. AFTER THAT IT WAS HELL. he was in such a bad mood, he was leaving the club and he was like " ru coming with me or not" SO I DID. I know he was in a bad mood cuz of that guy but i kept asking whats wrong and of course i was in a bad mood to so i was going mental 2. He was like lets go sit down, so we did. MOOD CENTRAL. We just shouted at each other about stupid stuff ( was like we were going out lol) and i was like do u want me to go , and he was like NO just sit here quietly blah blah. (terrible form) anyway i was that drunk. we had a sort of heart to heart saying we get on well with each other and that we are very confortable around each other. got a taxi home and he was trying to cuddle me etc and said sorry u cant stay at mine tonight ive work in the morning , and i was like im not anyway. got out of the car and that was that. i texted when i got in saying " sorry x" No reply UNTIL the next night, he texted saying " dont apoligise you didnt do anything wrong". I was out again at this stage and so was he but in separate places, but we texted most of the night etc just general chat. I got home and he even rang me and all and even facebooked emailed me. Didnt hear again till sunday night where i got another text saying " yoo whats up?" and that was the last text. I ended up going out on the monday night and i drunk texted him and rang but i didnt hear back lol. Soo anyway wednesday i was in work and who comes in? HIM. but what did i do? i blanked him by accident lol. so i texted anyway straight away saying " soo soory i didnt see you there im that hungover" he didnt reply and of course i freaked out, but he came into the shop AGAIN ( which rele confused me, like he came back) . so i stepped up and saiidddd alrightttt!! he smiled and said hay but i had to go serve someone else, but i sed how r ya and he said " im grand not hungover like you" and smiled, which obviously means he got my text. NEXT NIGHT.... i see him out kissing another girl, ( i know hes single like so whatever but still), i hit him on the shoulder but i just got blanked and again on the way out when i seen them again i just laughed both times and walked on with my mates. anyway i came home and he was on fb chat and i drunk chatted (the dreaded thing, I SO REGRET) . i was like " not home shagging your girl nah? ", and said " thanks for blanking me i wanted to talk to you about something and i just wrote loads of lmaos and lols like i was making it all into a joke. (thank god but still).. anyway he did this.... "......................................... cba" and i just wrote back saying C B A. and thats been that, i havent talked or seen him since. TBH i know guys will be guys i know that but im just really down about it because i got on so well with him etc. TBH IM PISSED OFF as i generally seen him as mate IF ANYTHING fair enough we slept together etc. My opinion is generally he freaked out because he was getting close to me and didnt want anything serious or whatever, WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK? i really need your opinions? do i just move on? or wait till isee him again? i deleted his number to avoid anymore drunk dialing etc. so at least i havent gone mental etc and bombarded him with texts and calls since. He came into my shop again the other night but i wasnt working and my mate said he came in quite late and looked down all the isles and then came to till. I know i cant read into anything but she said it looked like he was looking for someone, and it was half 11 at night like and noone was even in the shop. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO THINK, what do i do next time i see him? out or in the shop? i know he liked me like why wud he bother texten and all that. OPINIONS ETC NEEDED , id really appreciate you guys help. thanks so much again for taking the time to read this!!! lots of love xxxxxxxx
pteromom Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 He slept with you, has had a few awkward encounters with you, and then was out kissing someone else. He does not feel the same way about you as you feel about him. If he did, he would be actively pursuing you, not ignoring you and kissing other girls. Yes, I would move on. As far as "why would he bother texting if he didn't like me"... let's see... He hopes for more sex. He's lonely at the moment, and knows you will respond. Yeh, that's pretty much it. 1
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