baseballgirl Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Hi, I will try to summarize the whole story which happened within a year. me and my boyfriend met last year and he was deeply in love with me. At that moment i seem to be a turning point in his life. we both come from the same country and met when studying abroad. despite his previous plans to return to our home country after his graduation, he decided to change his mind for me. however, after six month of being in the relationship, his decisions changed completely. after returning to our hone country for a short break due to his grandma's death he was very sure he wanted to return for good after he graduates. from that day onwards, i felt a difference in him. we started arguing and quarellig too much about anything under the sun. he would start being very impatient with me and everything i said seemed wrong. problems grew as i endure as much as i could holding on to the guy i once know. he had turned into a complete monster but im still reluctant to believe it. he is just hot and cold. he would willingly help me and spend a whole week with me just to finish up my assignments, and when we fight, he would bring all those incidents up about how much he had done for me and how unappreciative i am. im shattered. i wish someday we would stop fighting and start from where we used to be. but nomatter how much i tried, its just been a painful journey because what i do never seem to work. please advise.
d'Arthez Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 He seems to have a lot of emotional baggage, and he is taking it out on you. In addition on that, you are on completely different pages with regards to major life decisions. Since this has gone on for a long time, and nothing positive has come of it, chances are high that the damage cannot be repaired. If you want to try, you could opt for counseling with your boyfriend to improve communication between the two of you. If the two of you cannot compromise, then nothing can be done to "fix" things. In which case I would suggest you break up with him.
Author baseballgirl Posted June 10, 2012 Author Posted June 10, 2012 I have realized that the reason he was being impatient with me was because of a game. A game he started playing and I think its taking away his sanity. He is just impatient, all he thinks about is the game. We broke up and I feel absolutely broken. He would say anything just to get back to playing his game. Has anyone encountered this before?
TaraMaiden Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 What game? World Of Warcraft? Assassin's Creed? Sonic the hedgehog? Did you know that there are actually counsellors and therapists who specialise in helping those with Game Addiction? Almost without exception, addicts are male. where are you both originally from?
TaraMaiden Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 On addiction: BBC - Newsbeat - Counsellors call for more help for 'gaming addicts' Online game addiction rising, counsellors warn | Technology | The Guardian Treatment Options for Video Game Addicts On male propensity: Study: Men More Likely to Become Game-Addicted | GamePolitics World of Warcraft and video games blamed for divorce as men 'prefer them to their wives' | Mail Online Video games activate reward regions of brain in men more than women, Stanford study finds - Office of Communications & Public Affairs - Stanford University School of Medicine
geegirl Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 I have realized that the reason he was being impatient with me was because of a game. A game he started playing and I think its taking away his sanity. He is just impatient, all he thinks about is the game. We broke up and I feel absolutely broken. He would say anything just to get back to playing his game. Has anyone encountered this before? My ex-husband and I divorced because of Mr. Xbox and Mr. Playstation. It became an addiction so much so he slept in the other room to be closer to his consoles and his online gaming buddies. At least I had the bed all to myself.
Author baseballgirl Posted June 10, 2012 Author Posted June 10, 2012 My ex-husband and I divorced because of Mr. Xbox and Mr. Playstation. It became an addiction so much so he slept in the other room to be closer to his consoles and his online gaming buddies. At least I had the bed all to myself. Really? He didn't used to be addicted to games. He is very focused on his tasks and his goals in studies/work. But thats because he spent his leisure times with me. But recently, I had given the free time he was dying to get with his friends. And this game was introduced to him. He still does his routine at work, but he returns early to play games, and to be with his friends. The words he said harmed me. I don't know how to cope with this break up. Its just so pain for me. Please advise.
geegirl Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 My ex turned into a different guy as well once he started getting addicted. Started playing from 11am to 4am straight, daily. Quit his job. I had to work two jobs to support us. We stopped talking. Never spent any time together. He would get annoyed when I questioned his gaming habits. I was alone in the marriage. He lost himself. I'm not saying your situation is the same as mine, but you have to let go. His priorities do not coincide with yours. It may not even be gaming that has caused him to re-evaluate the relationship. He may just not want to be in a committed relationship anymore. I know you are in pain. I'm sorry. There is no quick way to deal with this. You have to feel it and try to let go and move on.
nanbullen Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 My ex is addicted to PS3 and xbox. He played day and night, and since he's self employed, he would stay home weeks at a time, only getting off the couch to go get fast food. Since he wasn't working, he fell behind on his bills, ended up getting evicted and now he's living in his mothers garage. He works just enough to make his child support payment so he stays out of jail. Since we live far apart we talked a lot on the phone and ALL he would talk about would be the game he was playing. I mean he would go into all this detail about what weapon he was using and why, what he needed to do to upgrade his armor...EVERYTHING. And these were games I've never even played! You can imagine how mind numbingly boring it is to hear every excruciating detail of some random game. LOL....I sure don't miss that. He's such a tool!
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