MissJewell Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year, living together for nearly 4 months now. When we first got together, he had serious issues with me and Facebook. I had a lot of friends, and a lot of them were boys. If I was ever on Facebook in his company, he would give me the silent treatment. He would always make snide comments about it. He would imply that I was more interested in my Facebook friends than I was in him. The list is endless. He just hated Facebook. We had so many ridiculous, pathetic arguments over Facebook. And I ended up deactivating my account. Yet he refused to deactivate his. So I ended up back on there after a few weeks. This went on for months, he would deactivate his, I would deactivate mine, yet we both ended up back on there at some point. I never quite understood what he thought I was doing on Facebook. And I NEVER had a problem with him on Facebook. Well, that was up until a few months ago. He left his facebook logged on my laptop, and I clicked on his messages. (Curiosity killed the cat) I saw messages I really wish I hadn't seen. They were from him to girls. Extremely flirtatious messages. One even saying that it was a shame he had a girlfriend, and he was gutted he had never met this girl before me. Now, I understand I should NOT have read his messages. But I was so hurt after seeing that. I immediately confronted him about it, and he told me it was harmless, it didn't mean anything, and he was genuinely sorry about it. I could see it in his eyes. After that, I found it extremely hard to trust him on Facebook. I guess I knew deep down he would never cheat on me, but the thought of him saying things like that to other girls, makes me sick. It also makes me look like a complete idiot! After that, he gave me his password. He told me he wanted me to have his password, because he has nothing to hide. And he wants me to know that. I told him I wouldn't be going on his Facebook anyway, but as time passed.. I did. I would log on occasionally, just to check his messages. Just for a piece of mind. And even whilst I was doing it, I knew I shouldn't of been doing it. Facebook is his personal space, and I shouldn't be invading it. Months passed, and I never found anything on his Facebook. I got over it. I learnt to trust him again. And I never felt the need to log on his facebook. Until about 2 weeks ago, He's been really distant with me, and quite mysterious. So I went to log on, and I noticed he had changed his password just a few nights before! I tried to play it cool, but as the days passed, I found myself going a little insane, wondering why he would of randomly changed his password. I mean who randomly changes their password? Last weekend, I noticed he had deleted all of the browsing history. And that was when I flipped. I confronted him, and asked him why he had changed his password, deleted browsing history etc. He said it's his private space. (Which is correct, and I totally understand) But now, all I can seem to think about is what is he hiding from me? Am I wrong to be worrying about this? Am I coming across as a crazy girlfriend? How can I get a grip, and try to forget about it. I'm better than all of this... I mean, at the end of the day, if he is doing anything, then he isn't the man I thought he was anyway..
Kae2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I mean, at the end of the day, if he is doing anything, then he isn't the man I thought he was anyway.. Sounds like you already know he is doing something he shouldn't be and his past behavior shows it. He changed his password because there is something on FB he does not want you to see. You have a innocent connection to FB but he does not. Good luck
CopingGal Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 My ex had a Facebook page that he never told me about. Then lied to me and told me it was only up for two weeks. When I questioned the earlier entries, he told me Facebook was broken. After I discovered it, he took a long time to friend me on it and never mentioned me on his facebook page whatsoever. He turned out to be a liar, a cheater and a user. I don't know what he was hiding from me on his Facebook page, but I got rid of both him and Facebook.
denise_xo Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Am I wrong to be worrying about this? No, not at all. These are all classical signs/ big red flags waving.
Fugu Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 My ex had a Facebook page that he never told me about. Then lied to me and told me it was only up for two weeks. When I questioned the earlier entries, he told me Facebook was broken. After I discovered it, he took a long time to friend me on it and never mentioned me on his facebook page whatsoever. He turned out to be a liar, a cheater and a user. I don't know what he was hiding from me on his Facebook page, but I got rid of both him and Facebook. Getting rid of him was the right move, but don't get rid of FB. It's the perfect truth syrum.
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