Whisper Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 I'm so tired of being nice to my ex. I have a very strong desire to send this email to him : ---- I am so tired of ignorant, extremely oblivious people who are too much of a coward to deal with me face to face, heart to heart. If you constantly run around refusing to see what's right in front of you, choosing to only realize and deal with what you want to happen, with what you want to see, hear, and feel ... you're a piece of **** who doesn't deserve ANYONE'S love or companionship. You don't ****ing care. And if you do you're doing a horrible job of showing it. You'd think after over a year of me giving my all to you, I'd mean more than just some girl who you happen to unfortunetly, have some sort of connection to. I feel like something you have do deal with. Something you wish would just dissapear so it would make it easier for you. I can tell how much I really meant to you, since just three weeks after you hold me and tell me that you love me, you're now spending time with another girl. Telling me how good she makes you feel. Telling me how not right I was for you. I thought I made you happy. ----- Hm. Uhh ... should I send it? Or no? Is it a bad idea?
tiki Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 I wouldn't send it, but I don't know the story behind it. Just treat him as he has treated you....oh no, wait...treat him as you would want to be treated.
Apollo432 Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 Great Email......Bad Idea. Is he really even worth the effort it takes to hit the send button? I know what you are going through my ex gf did the same to me (she didnt tell me even after I asked). It will get better, dont send the email you will regret it later. He isnt even worth it if he is rubbing it in your face. He has a lot more issues than he is aware of if he can thow it all away just like that. I dont understand how people move on so quickly.
faux Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 I wouldn't send that! It would just make things far worse. I would, however, continue to write letters to him and simply not send/deliver them. It is a great coping mechanism. After you get your thoughts out, just rip up the letter or delete it. There are times when I will open up a new post here on LoveShack, fill it up, and then just close the window. Sometimes I don't need advice, and I don't want to share everything with others, but writing about it makes me feel better. Additionally, going so far as to come here, start a new "pretend" thread, and write in it provides me with even better satisfaction when I have finished.
Author Whisper Posted June 28, 2004 Author Posted June 28, 2004 How would it make things worse? ..... seems like they are already as bad as they can get. He's put me through hell.
J_weik Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 If hes put you through hell, why even bother thinking/writing about him? In your mind, just tell him to eff off, and move on to someone that is good to you.
Author Whisper Posted June 28, 2004 Author Posted June 28, 2004 I guess, Because, deep down I know he's not an a**h***. I know he's really a good guy. He's just stupid and immature. All along I've wanted someone to tell him what he's doing, make him realize how messed up his reasoning is. I just want him to feel bad.
J_weik Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 Noone, not even his closest friend, can tell him what hes doing is wrong. He has to find that out himself. With my ex, i was a complete controlling a**h***. I didnt know at the time, even though my sister and family told me i was. I didn't believe them, thought everything was fine. Well, if every thing was fine, i wouldnt be alone right now, missing her. What i wouldnt do to go back and change this. I wasnt the person i was, when i was with her. In reality, im nice guy, but something flipped inside of me, and i became an a**h***. I now know how i acted was wrong, and immature. But that was only because she left me, she never sat me down and told me (though she shouldnt have either.)
moimeme Posted June 29, 2004 Posted June 29, 2004 make him realize how messed up his reasoning is. This never works. Think about it: you're trying to make somebody whose thinking is messed up think! Doomed to failure. You'll just annoy him. I just want him to feel bad. He won't. He'll be glad he ditched someone who could be so venomous. You can't come off looking good if you resort to that sort of stuff - and it never, ever makes people feel bad.
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