confused2385 Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 So it's official she is with the other guy. Told me she wants nothing to do with us and he is all she wants. Will not tell him that after they rekindled and became honest with eachother that she has cheated on him 5 times with me or how she never wanted to leave and all the emotions and feelings for me.....says he will leave her no doubt if he knows. She begins saying hurtful things that just arent true and for the first time I hung up on her. She texted if I hung up on her and then she texted me "I know you hurt and i have hurt you, but i will be brutally honest with what he has that may drawme in more and i will EVENTUALLY be honest with him when I feel the time is right and i feel comfortable to tell him so please i know you dont owe me anything but please just do this for me i dont want to hate you and you know this will make me hate you so please" followed by " now you dont rerspond" I just can't believe I love this girl and she is moved on with another guy and I am keeping this secret that is eating me alive and keeping me from sleeping basically the last 2-3 weeks. So manipulative and selfish. What can I do to stop thinking of her? Any advice? I have been back on my workout routine and setting up dates as well as trips to see out of town buddies, but i almost don't want to do anything. I just have no drive
coltsfan1 Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Then tell him and be done with them both. But know this telling him won't change anything!! Go out with your friends and bang another girl!!! 1
Author confused2385 Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 It's just eating me up inside...I have and somehow it made me feel worse. After all of her crap I am so confused how I am the one who is hurt and feel bad while shes 100% past (I only made it easier) me moved on and cut me off and kicked tot he curb.
shayla Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Even if you do tell, she will lie her way out of it, tell him that you are the bitter jealous ex boyfriend that is stalking her and blah blah blah...been there and done that. When this happened to me, I told and then washed my hands of it all. I just knew that the lies about me had to stop, and this stopped that cold. My vote is go tell it on the mountain.
Chi townD Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 You owe her NOTHING. You are not obligated to keep her secret especially if it's causing you to have an ulcer. I think the dude has a right to know. If he believes you or not that's up to him. Chances are that she'll have him believing that you are an insane Ex that's trying to break the two of them up. But, be warned! As soon as she gets him settled down and believing she's a perfect angel, she will go nuclear! Therefore, save all the texts and let everything go to voicemail. She will be so pissed she'll probably incriminate herself in text or voicemail...then forward it to the dude. She'll have a hard time explaining that one. Then, NC and enjoy your life! 3
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