mr-lonely Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 hiya all im 24 and my ex is 24 yesterday i was feeling low in myself with a few worries on my head, so at around 11.30pm i went up stairs and into my bedroom (i snore and she had work so i slept in spare room its normal) and just put the tv on and laid in bed thinking, 5 mins later she came out of bathroom after doing her teeth and came in the bedroom were i was, she asked whats wrong i said nothing much, just got few thing on my head right now, she knew i had problems last week... well then she started rowing with me, then last night she said she looked on google and it said no communication is no relationship. we rowed but i just wanted the right time to tell her whats on my head, well today text her around 10pm and she asked for some time, then a break, then said she dont know how she feel no more, she told me this about 4 months ago aswell about how she is unsure if she loves me,, well now its final and i just a mess right now, i had 2 mates when i was younger and they were my best friends that passed away. then i detatched my self from getting close but when i met my partner i classed her as a best mate now this have happened, we have been rowing on and off for a long time but all petty rows, problem 1 is that we just rented a house together 3 weeks ago for 6 month contract, she said that above so i assumed i had no option to pack my stuff and leave. well i will collect the rest my stuff in morning when she is in work and post the keys. tonite she said it might be stress with the new house, but im doing my best, giving her money, paying the bill 50/50 - im insecure over her work friends, she says thsi one boys is a rugby player and the other is a full on chocy boy, its eating me up and she must have thier numbers for work but im not allowed a girls number i just had to accept its eating away at me and try and get on with it. but once i started talking to a girl near my work place she was not happy and asked me to avoid her, i dun just that just not to row, well i have not accepted it over but she wants a break (be single), time an now split, i dunno were to turn im so low right now, im stuck in work and working alone so my head spinning, i tried doing stuff but it keep playing on my mind i am so low, heart broken, this girl i thought was the girl of my dreams. she a perfect girl, very pretty, thin, and all good features, im just a low life idiot stuck in a boring job on my own every time. im fat, ugly, dun measure up, i am on the verge on taking a swim in the lake while in my car and end all my pain. i have thought of a place, after work in morning and just end it all
Chi townD Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 First off. Absolutely, positively NO GIRL is worth ending your life over. So, if you're that bad off, you need to go directly to the emergency room.
Author mr-lonely Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 whats motor boating, i am so low i cant funtion in my life with out this girl, in the whole 7 years i never cheated or ever done anything like that to hurt her, in my head i do think its got to be another boy she must like to end it just like that... im so lost, so low, what can i do
Breck Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 hiya all im 24 and my ex is 24 yesterday i was feeling low in myself with a few worries on my head, so at around 11.30pm i went up stairs and into my bedroom (i snore and she had work so i slept in spare room its normal) and just put the tv on and laid in bed thinking, 5 mins later she came out of bathroom after doing her teeth and came in the bedroom were i was, she asked whats wrong i said nothing much, just got few thing on my head right now, she knew i had problems last week... well then she started rowing with me, then last night she said she looked on google and it said no communication is no relationship. we rowed but i just wanted the right time to tell her whats on my head, well today text her around 10pm and she asked for some time, then a break, then said she dont know how she feel no more, she told me this about 4 months ago aswell about how she is unsure if she loves me,, well now its final and i just a mess right now, i had 2 mates when i was younger and they were my best friends that passed away. then i detatched my self from getting close but when i met my partner i classed her as a best mate now this have happened, we have been rowing on and off for a long time but all petty rows, problem 1 is that we just rented a house together 3 weeks ago for 6 month contract, she said that above so i assumed i had no option to pack my stuff and leave. well i will collect the rest my stuff in morning when she is in work and post the keys. tonite she said it might be stress with the new house, but im doing my best, giving her money, paying the bill 50/50 - im insecure over her work friends, she says thsi one boys is a rugby player and the other is a full on chocy boy, its eating me up and she must have thier numbers for work but im not allowed a girls number i just had to accept its eating away at me and try and get on with it. but once i started talking to a girl near my work place she was not happy and asked me to avoid her, i dun just that just not to row, well i have not accepted it over but she wants a break (be single), time an now split, i dunno were to turn im so low right now, im stuck in work and working alone so my head spinning, i tried doing stuff but it keep playing on my mind i am so low, heart broken, this girl i thought was the girl of my dreams. she a perfect girl, very pretty, thin, and all good features, im just a low life idiot stuck in a boring job on my own every time. im fat, ugly, dun measure up, i am on the verge on taking a swim in the lake while in my car and end all my pain. i have thought of a place, after work in morning and just end it all Not sure how many long relationships you've been in but the first long relationship breakup hurts the most! There isn't a quick cure. You just have to mark on a calendar 6-12 months from now that you have to try to withstand the pain knowing that you will be happier one day. Best advice I can give is whatever you do, don't focus on her. Focus on you. It's impossible to think of letting her go, but if you work on yourself and forget about her, you will be in a better position for reconciliation down the line.
Author mr-lonely Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 this was the fiest serious girl i been with, i never done no cheating or anything, i stayed true, i am angry that i feel deep for a girl and then i get dumped, my headed messed up
Breck Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 You're 24. You're young. Overcoming this will take a long time, but you will feel so empowered when you do. Sometimes you have to experience pain before you can fully appreciate love/joy. You'll end up happy and with the love of your life. But you have to be patient!
Author mr-lonely Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 i understand what you saying, but i work 54 hours a week and on my own every time, and for 52 hours out of 54 i will think about her,
Breck Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Watch this video. Best advice I can give. Let Them Walk - Bishop T.D. Jakes - YouTube
Author mr-lonely Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 thanks for that, maybe try and watch it a bit more but right now it aint helping i dont want to be alone unless in 6 feet under
Chi townD Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Okay...so from this point on. You need to go straight no contact (NC) with this girl. She made the choice to have you out of her life, so that's EXACTLY what you give her. You need to delete her FB page and block her. You do not text, e-mail or phone her AT ALL!!! You post here instead. Now here's the hard part, you have to IGNORE all text, e-mails and phonecalls from her. Post here instead. You are not her friend. You didn't get into a loving and committed relationship with her to ultimately only become "good friends". This isn't to punish your Ex. It is to distance yourself from her so that you can heal. If she ask to be friends, be honest and say that it isn't possible right now because you still harbor feelings for her and that wouldn't be fair to you or her. If she argues that one, then she's self centered and extremely selfish. Okay, so in your first post, you were bashing on yourself pretty hard. You need to make positive changes in your life. You need to get motivated. If your a little overweight, hit the gym! push weight and run your ass off on the threadmill! It's a great way to work off the stress and frustrations too! Then get yourself a new hairstyle and a new wardrobe. Meet up with those girls that are friends and have them take you clothes shopping. They would absolutely love to do that with you! If you wear glasses, get contacts. If you don't like your job, this get to college or university and study for a carreer change that's gonna pay you a damn good salary! Then save your money and plan a trip somewhere that you've always wanted to go and just go!!! There's a world out there to explore! Go see it!
Breck Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 i understand what you saying, but i work 54 hours a week and on my own every time, and for 52 hours out of 54 i will think about her, Ultimately what do you want? Probably to get her back. So give yourself the best chance of getting her back. Go No Contact (don't contact her in any way). Disappear from her life. Work on you (making yourself better/happier). Wanting her back is the only thing keeping you from her. She needs to miss you. She needs to wonder what you are doing. This isn't a 2 week break. This is a 6 month break to get your life back under control. 6 months from now you will be in a better position to decide whether or not you want her back.
Author mr-lonely Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 thanks for the replys, the other think on my mind is that, you say go NC and let her miss me but the things that came out of her mouth seems as though she is glad to be from me, she sounded so certain that its what she wants and needs the break and be single. i say withing the next week she will probaly text me and ask if im ok, or somthing like good morning or any very small 5 word text, shall i just completely ignore it, also as we got this house, but i am living up my father house, shall i just get all my stuff in the morning when she is in work and then post her keys.
ano12324 Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 there is a lot of good advice on here and on thelovelogic forum, read some of superdaves posts. give it time mate, things may change in the future, you never know. if you continue to stay that low, please call a suicide hotline and maybe you should talk to a counselor soon. we've all been there, it gets better!
Author mr-lonely Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 thats the thing as i keep thinking there is another boy involved down the line, i cant get back after the break and her being single as i know it will mess my head up bad as i will think she tested the water with another boy and single life
Philosoraptor Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Man I was here awhile back and I can tell you that if you let it get better it will. Want to read a sad story? Look at my oldest few threads. Right now is your time to figure out what you want out of life for yourself. Figure out those things then go ahead and start making those dreams come true.
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