prncssweetie Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 Hi girls! {and guys too!} I just wanted to say hi to everyone and see that everyone is doing okay. Secondly, I would like to get some advice from all of you here. Okay so like I had talked about awhile back being that I'm a virgin all my boyfriend's previous sexual experiences have made me very insecure to the point that I've thought he should be better off with a girl who could put out. I say this b/c I feel like a bad GF for not having sex with him like he did with his previous gfs. He's never pressured me or compared me and respects my decision. So you can probably understand my frustration about why I'm insecure. So I wanted to know how to bring up the subject of maybe taking a break from the relationship. Now the tricky thing is, is that I've never really told him my fears so I don't know how he'll react to my reasons which are that I need time to get myself together. While we are on this break, I would like him to date others. I know sounds crazy, but I figure it's better than him waiting for me. Any ideas, advice? I've been crying about this lately but I know I have to get out and clear my head for awhile
dasani08810 Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 How about just saying what you wrote. No need to come up with lines that will make him feel better. It is what it is. But I have to say; mayber you're projecting a little? How do you know his thoughts before you give him the opportunity to share them? Maybe all your fears and insecurties are projections. It may be that he will be understanding and maybe even wait for you. That is; as long as your intentions aren't to date someone else. I'm all for up front honesty in these things.
J_weik Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 If he loves you, then he will wait. When i was with my ex, sex did not mean a thing to me. Sure its great, but it isn't/wasn't the first thing i thought about.
faux Posted June 28, 2004 Posted June 28, 2004 You say that you have not spoken to your boyfriend about what is bothering you. Communication and openness is a huge part of any relationship. I think that you will feel much better if you sat down and spoke to him about your concerns, so that you can see his reactions and listen to what he has to say in response to your fears.
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