Leopard Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 I think that because he only told you these things during a fight, that says a lot more about him than the pictures. He sounds like a douche all around. He knows it would piss you off and make you insecure, and that's why he said it. I mean think about it, why else would he NOT mention it during regular times? Because he know it makes you insecure, but he still keeps doing it behind your back. And its not even that, you can't control what the other girls do. But he doesn't even tell them "listen, this is inappropriate don't send me this anymore". Clearly the girls didn't get this vibe from him otherwise they would back off. If it was ONE girl that was obsessive, okay, fine. But more than one who are all "obsessed" with him and just "want him more"? No. He is telling them its okay to do that, and thats why they KEEP doing that. Plus he says it in fights just to piss you off. Oh yeah, GREAT boyfriend.
Author SerCay Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 I had never looked at it from that angle! Thanks Leopard! I mean...why would you even mention such a thing if you already know your contact with them is hurting your gf right!!??
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 He's straight up lying and the writing is all over the wall. It's essentially a time bomb. Not only does he need their attention for the ego boost, he also keeps those lines of communication open as an option and to potentially cheat (If he hasn't already) regardless of whether he has cheated or not these are the actions of a cheater/manipulator. The fact that it didn't work out with them is irrelevant, because they're not priority girls they're backup girls. And the reason his ex left him was because she was tired of being the current priority girl that would end up as a backup girl in the future. He can easily flip the scenario on you and break up calling you controlling, needy, jealous and insecure...however that's not true, you're just not blind and stupid, you can obviously see there is something going on, now whether you do something about it or not is the question. Do yourself a favor an never believe 100 percent what a man says, hear it, acknowledge it but find out If it's actually true, women tend to believe far too much what their significant others say, and because their emotions are tied in they overlook important issues like this. And always remember the farther and longer a man takes a lie the less likely he is going to admit the truth...because it will only make him look more like a fool, a complete liar and of course utterly break your heart. Men would much more likely go down with the ship, then come clean about certain things where they just end of feeling abandoned for it. They come clean, it's an automatic loss, they lie then they have a chance to keep dragging you onward through the relationship until they're ready to move on from you. 1
Star Gazer Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Accusing you of being jealous when you express discomfort at his communications to/from females is his way of distracting you. I'd be concerned. If he was unwilling or unable to help me calm my fears and build a stronger foundation of trust, I'd move on. 1
Author SerCay Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 He's straight up lying and the writing is all over the wall. It's essentially a time bomb. Not only does he need their attention for the ego boost, he also keeps those lines of communication open as an option and to potentially cheat (If he hasn't already) regardless of whether he has cheated or not these are the actions of a cheater/manipulator. The fact that it didn't work out with them is irrelevant, because they're not priority girls they're backup girls. And the reason his ex left him was because she was tired of being the current priority girl that would end up as a backup girl in the future. He can easily flip the scenario on you and break up calling you controlling, needy, jealous and insecure...however that's not true, you're just not blind and stupid, you can obviously see there is something going on, now whether you do something about it or not is the question. Do yourself a favor an never believe 100 percent what a man says, hear it, acknowledge it but find out If it's actually true, women tend to believe far too much what their significant others say, and because their emotions are tied in they overlook important issues like this. And always remember the farther and longer a man takes a lie the less likely he is going to admit the truth...because it will only make him look more like a fool, a complete liar and of course utterly break your heart. Men would much more likely go down with the ship, then come clean about certain things where they just end of feeling abandoned for it. They come clean, it's an automatic loss, they lie then they have a chance to keep dragging you onward through the relationship until they're ready to move on from you. come to think of it, it's true..the minute I started questioning is constant chatting on whatsapp he started to slowly withdraw and call me less, text me less..etc..that must be the time bomb It's so weird that he genuinely sees NOTHING wrong in his behaviour so far. Accusing you of being jealous when you express discomfort at his communications to/from females is his way of distracting you. I'd be concerned. If he was unwilling or unable to help me calm my fears and build a stronger foundation of trust, I'd move on. Yes, he says I've stressed the F out of him and pushed him in a corner and I made him feel he was doping something wrong when he wasn't.. Anyway, just for info, we broke up a month ago. And tbh I have been weak a couple of days ago to think I would get back with him if he promised me he would from now on be honest and just tell them he's in a committed relationship..but now I realise how impossible that would have been as I would never ever believe him even if he promised...yeah it´s for the better this way
storm007 Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Give the cheater the boot, you have to know that this behavior is unacceptable tell him to hit the road. he is a jerk.
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