james92 Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 so. I have been seeing this girl for a around 6 weeks now and I really like her. she also likes me too and we made that clear to eachother at the very start. we went to school together a couple of years back and we liked eachother then. so we stated to spend time together and go out for a meal or got to watch the football which she really enjoyed. after a few weeks I said to her that I would like us to be together and she said that she said we should keep spending time together before we make it offcial. so after seeing more of eachother I asked what was happening between us and she replied saying that she wasnt ready for a relationship yet and needs to sort her head out. she went on to saying that we have alot in common and are very compatible and how much she loves spending time with me. she also said she doesnt wanna mess me around and hurt me in the long run but still wants to spned time together? 6 months ago she had a two year relationship which she hasnt mentioned one thing about and I am not sure if this is scaring her a little. we text eachother every day but i have a job from monday to friday and she works split shifts 12-3- 6-12pm 5 days a week. she always says stuff like one day we should get a place togehter, and next year we should this and that. she has also said that she cant wait for out times bu recentley she has become alot more quiet. when I ask further questions like do you think we could have a future together once you are ready she doesnt reply but if i ask about her day she is fine with it? need some advice on what to because she sees me as more than a friend and think about me alot but really dont know what to do.
carhill Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 If history is any guide, she's still hung up on an ex and all the other words are a socially lubricating mind-fµck. That said, I like Hokie's analysis better Welcome to LS
InJest Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 Stop texting her so much, and stop communicating so much in general. Just keep having sex with her, but go after other women too. You're not bound to her so you owe it to yourself to see what else is out there. If she finds out you have other options, you instantly become a lot more attractive.
London Girl 8 Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 I don't know if this will help, but I am one of those girls that have just come out of a long term relationship and at the moment I am just looking for and nothing serious. After 6 months she may still feel hurt or she may feel scared because she doesn't want to get hurt again. Honestly, if you want to know just talk to her about, be honest, if she doesn't want to hear it or gives you a hard time that may give you an answer. I know that if I did this to a guy I would prefer for him to bring it up and talk about it, but that's just me.
SJC2008 Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 6 weeks is a little premature to ask for r status IMO and I'd agree with the other posters who said she's probably still healing. If that's the case SHE should of said this early on that she is looking to date and not looking for anything serious. I don't like how she's saying she's not ready for an r and then throws you teasers like "let's get a place eventually", to keep you around. Very very selfish IMO.
Author james92 Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 thanks for the replies.. she still continued to speak to me most days but I have asked whats the deal with us two now and she doesnt answer. she never answers any question to do with me and her. I think she may have realised what she has done by leading me on and cant tell me. all i want is for her to explain to me what she is thinking but she ignores me. I asked her last week whether she still likes me and she said that I know that but she said she was in a 2 year relationship and that was like hell. I am going to leave her alone for a while now. think she could of wrecked the friendship we had too by ignoring me. I totally understand shes not ready but the whole ignoring thing is pathetic and shes normally quite open to talk about things.
Curtis24 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 so. I have been seeing this girl for a around 6 weeks now and I really like her. she also likes me too and we made that clear to eachother at the very start. we went to school together a couple of years back and we liked eachother then. so we stated to spend time together and go out for a meal or got to watch the football which she really enjoyed. after a few weeks I said to her that I would like us to be together and she said that she said we should keep spending time together before we make it offcial. so after seeing more of eachother I asked what was happening between us and she replied saying that she wasnt ready for a relationship yet and needs to sort her head out. she went on to saying that we have alot in common and are very compatible and how much she loves spending time with me. she also said she doesnt wanna mess me around and hurt me in the long run but still wants to spned time together? 6 months ago she had a two year relationship which she hasnt mentioned one thing about and I am not sure if this is scaring her a little. we text eachother every day but i have a job from monday to friday and she works split shifts 12-3- 6-12pm 5 days a week. she always says stuff like one day we should get a place togehter, and next year we should this and that. she has also said that she cant wait for out times bu recentley she has become alot more quiet. when I ask further questions like do you think we could have a future together once you are ready she doesnt reply but if i ask about her day she is fine with it? need some advice on what to because she sees me as more than a friend and think about me alot but really dont know what to do. Have you slept with her yet???? If not, she's probably not attracted to you, and you'd be best moving on.
phineas Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I "dated" someone like this. She just isn't all that into you & probably has a FWB you don't know about. See other women. She obviously has nothing to offer you. find someone who does.
Author james92 Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 she cant have a FWB thing I dont know about because shes constantly working and is always with family when she has a day off. weve stopped talking now and she stopped responding to my texts. she isnt the type of girl to do that and we are friends and she did say last week she still liked me. I think shes just damaged emotionally and still thinks about her past and cant move on. I will wait for her to talk to me anyway. and I havent had alot of time on my own with her tbh because of her working till midnight and me all day. slept with her but not had sex cus we were drunk and was at mates house with 3 on one bed.
TheFinalWord Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 she cant have a FWB thing I dont know about because shes constantly working and is always with family when she has a day off. weve stopped talking now and she stopped responding to my texts. she isnt the type of girl to do that and we are friends and she did say last week she still liked me. I think shes just damaged emotionally and still thinks about her past and cant move on. I will wait for her to talk to me anyway. and I havent had alot of time on my own with her tbh because of her working till midnight and me all day. slept with her but not had sex cus we were drunk and was at mates house with 3 on one bed. Women do need time to heal after a relationship, BUT when they meet a guy they really like, they will forget about the ex and move on quickly. In other words, she would be able to move on if she really liked you. For whatever reason she either does not think it will work or she isn't into you enough that you make her forget her ex. And I've heard this line before from women. Women do not need forever to heal from an ex when their dream guy comes along. Don't hold up for her. 2
Author james92 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 after trying and trying to ask why she isn't talking all of a sudden, she said "were just meant to be friends and I dont want to hurt you". take into fact weve been talking for a couple of months seen each other without anyone else only 5 or 6 times because she works stupid hours. I don't know how a girl can say she still likes you one day then a week later she says just to be friends. time will tell I guess but she gone from saying shes not ready about 4 times to saying that last thing. don't make sense to me.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 after trying and trying to ask why she isn't talking all of a sudden, she said "were just meant to be friends and I dont want to hurt you". take into fact weve been talking for a couple of months seen each other without anyone else only 5 or 6 times because she works stupid hours. I don't know how a girl can say she still likes you one day then a week later she says just to be friends. time will tell I guess but she gone from saying shes not ready about 4 times to saying that last thing. don't make sense to me. Because she didn't say shed like to date you. There's always a but if a girl says she's not ready only she kept you on the hook because you were nice to her. Girls actually know what they want and a recent breakup doesn't change that fact. I broke up with my ex two months ago but I still want a relationship. I just haven't met the right person yet.
Chunky Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Move on. She doesnt want to be with you otherwise she would. Find someone who wants you.
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