hopeless1989 Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 Hello everyone, This will be a very long post. I have been reading all the post here. My gf recently left me after 3year and 7months. Its been 26 days and i have been crying and feeling low ever since. i cam from a culture where arranged marriage and force marriage is common so you may know where i am going. I met here when i was 19 and she was 17. It was love at first sight. Rest are history how it started. But i found the perfect girl for me. She was pretty, and nice and have mentality like mine. You see i am one of those traditional guys who always had things in mind like i will love one person and i will marry her. I was her first bf and she was my first gf. We made plans and everything. Our first year was amazing . I became responsible. And started working as i wanted to make money for our car and apartment to impress her parents thats why i dropped my medical studies even. I am a good student or was. Anyways we were inseperable , we talked for hours in phone. We cant start our day or end it without messaging goodnight and goodmorning. Later as time passed her parents(mom) became verbally abusive and was always forcing her to get married to the type of guys she like and prefers. Like i said i am from a society where parents can be forceful. But she fought her mom alot(her mom didnt know about me at that time). Then when i turned 21 and she 19. A marriage proposal came for her. which lead her to confess about me to her mom. Her mom saw me before and when she learnt about me she didnt like me much physically. I mean physically she preferred different guys and was imposing her choice on my gf. Me and my gf fought for more than a year. She told her that we broke up so that her mom dont torture her which she still did as she always used to talk to me. anyways in the mean time i was getting closer and closer to being more independant. I was also doing my honours studies. THen out of the blue 26days ago she said. Her parents wont ever let her marry me( both her father was forcing now). Even if i have expensive cars and moneys and everything. Just because her parents dont like me superficially. I am not the ugliest person in the world, i know what i am. i wont say all girls like me but many girls i do. I am not upset that they think i am bad. But after all the trouble we went through together. And the sacrifices i made physically mentally. And after all the mental abuse that their parents let her through i cant believe she chose them. She is hurt but she cut all contact with me. She dumped me in phone as she said she gets emotional listening to me or seeing me. I returned her gifts by meeting her one day which she didnt expect. I know her routine and everything. And i did this because she tried hard to avoid me. Now she is just waiting for her parents to ruin her life which she admits to our common friend. And i am sobbing day n night with pain that i lost my soulmate. And i dont wana be with other women as i always liked to say i am a one women guy. I cant work i cant sleep. I dont even know why i am torturing you guys with this long post. But i am lost . I dont think i will ever find some one in terms of personality or looks. I miss all the sweet names she used to call me with. She never even used to talk to other guys and me with gals. We were exclusive for each other. I miss my life . i want to die, just staying alive because unlike her parents , my parents are good and i wish to make them proud. Thats the only reason i am alive. Thank you for reading friends. I hope i didnt bore you guys. Take care.
Author hopeless1989 Posted June 3, 2012 Author Posted June 3, 2012 i can never replace her not even wish to. She had such a kind heart, she was religious. She was the most gorgeous women according to me. Not a single women atleast in my eyes can beat her niceness or prettyness. Not even Angelina jolie or justin beiber ( guess i havent lost my humor even if i am crying to death). Please pray for me. Where will i find such a nice person? :( ..............
Dime_Girl Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 I would make one last plea to possibly her and her parents in the same room. And say that you love their daughter and you're willing to do what you have to do to be with her and you will respect them. If this doesn't work, I'm not sure what else will because I come from a family like this; my mother did not practice it with me but they do in my family and from what I've seen, once the family makes up their mind about a potential wife/husband, it's set. The only thing that will change their mind is you maybe talking to them or their daughter giving them no choice because at the end of the day, it's her life.
Author hopeless1989 Posted June 9, 2012 Author Posted June 9, 2012 I would make one last plea to possibly her and her parents in the same room. And say that you love their daughter and you're willing to do what you have to do to be with her and you will respect them. If this doesn't work, I'm not sure what else will because I come from a family like this; my mother did not practice it with me but they do in my family and from what I've seen, once the family makes up their mind about a potential wife/husband, it's set. The only thing that will change their mind is you maybe talking to them or their daughter giving them no choice because at the end of the day, it's her life. Sorry about the late reply. I have been down these days. Unfortunately last plea is not an option even though i told her about this. She said no as her mom already warned her no about this , that its not gonna work. The sad part is I have done so so so much for this girl. And she left me for people who abuses her verbally emotionally continuously. She even use to agree. I feel il never get some one like her. I can never forgive her for what she did. She proved that nice guys always finishes last or sometimes never finish. And the abusive tyrants always get their ways. Thank you for reading.
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