crazyaboutcrazy Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 (edited) After three months since my fiancee left me I started dating again. This week I dated three different women, which was a nice change of pace after months of still seeing my ex every few days (even this week I saw her three times). The first couple were fun to hang with but there wasn't any major chemistry for me there, the third went really well and we ended-up back at my place on her suggestion... One thing led to another and we slept together, but just after she left my crazy ex turns up in a cab, drunk off her ass and wanting to stay over. Since she's drunk she doesn't notice the evidence (I hadn't even had a chance to shower) and slept in my bed with me. It's weird because even though I like this new girl it was still nice to have my ex stay over as well...I realised that maybe I can be friends with her after all. The attraction is still there but I have no desire for her to come back and am enjoying the company of other girls. I finally got her to admit that she's been seeing an old friend of hers who also just got out a relationship, which I suspected but it was refreshing to have her admit it. I know they haven't taken it any further from other sources, but I'm now at the point where I won't care when she does,either with him or someone else. I still like her and her insane antics but this new girl was a refreshing change of pace and I'm seeing her again next week. The point being that just as most people here will advise, the best way to stop thinking about your ex is to go out with other women! Perhaps if either of us get into serious new relationships things will change but for now I'm happy to balance out spending time together with her and casual dating...guess I'm getting my cake and eating it too. Edited June 3, 2012 by crazyaboutcrazy Typo In The Title
Jingle14 Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 Can I ask, if the attraction is still there and you like her, why you don't want to be with her? For a woman, if the spark has been killed, it's very hard to reignite it so I am curious that this doesn't seem the case for men. My ex admitted the 'chemistry, attraction and connection' were still there but doesn't want to be with me, and this really confused me. Have tried going out with other people but it's just now working for me.
Author crazyaboutcrazy Posted June 3, 2012 Author Posted June 3, 2012 (edited) She's batsh-t crazy and couldn't accept the fact that I was married and had kids previously. She also smashed my laptop, cut up my clothes, put my profile up on a dating site and gave me a black eye when we lived together. But hey, sh-t happens! I'm not into holding grudges and she's a lot more entertaning (and less angry) in small doses. I'm sure that most of her attraction to me is gone at this point, since for her it is more emotionally based, but for me it never went away. I'm starting to appreciate other women again but she'll always be my ideal in terms of sexual attraction. Edited June 3, 2012 by crazyaboutcrazy cursing
Jingle14 Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 Thanks for that, it all sounds manic but i like your philosophy. I could be fiery but nothing like that, he thought he wanted someone like me, instead of the beige and boring he had been used to (his words), turns out he couldn't handle it and has reverted back to type. He might now be with someone else but it was me he said 'we fit together' to, only a week before he started seeing her and, physically, we'll not find a better match. Good luck to you though.
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