melbourneboy Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 Hey there it's been along time since I have been here but Im I'm some need of some advice. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 years and bought a house 3-4 years ago we don't have kids but a beatiful dog. Now for the most part things are great we spend alot of time together still go out on dates go out for dinner, I love this girl to bits but one thing is realy driving me insane, everytime I go and catch up with my mates (maybe once every 2-3 months sometimes once a month but not certainly like the single days) she finds a reason to be mad at me and she seems totally unreasonable,She sees her girlfriends maybe the same amount. I never have a problem with her going out never make it a big deal (we all need our mates right) Latest example. Friday one of my mates invited me to a jazz festival because one of our mates was back in town for the week. So I txt my girlfriend to ask if she minds if I go, she goes on to ignore my txt and calls the rest of the day, she had already organised to stay at a friends house that night cos the had a class on the sat. I goto work sat morning then proceed to go out met up with mates in the city went to the jazz show to find out all the tix were sold out, so we proceed to goto a little pub up the road, I left the city at 12:30 and got home at 2:00am. Then today shes all screaming and yelling at me cos I didn't txt her to tell her where I was, okay so maybe I should of had more consideration but I was out having a good time catching up with mates. She was also saying "you were out at the strippers all night" basicly accusing me of going out flirting with chicks and dancing with them when it couldn't be further from the truth. It's now 4:30pm in the Sunday and she just left saying she is leaving and stating with a friend and she wants me to sell the house, So I just let her go on with her ravings, she said "you want to hang out with your mates now you can have your own life cos this isn't part of a realationship" Last time I checked it's perfectly healthy for both parties to have their own lives. Should I be taking her seriously ? Cos I think it will blow over I told her she was over reacting and I thought its a joke she is leaving over this. Now I'm really confused Thanks for reading any advice?
Professor X Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 Why would she think you went to the strippers? Did you do that in your past? I wonder where he accusations are coming from. But generally speaking and assuming you got a clean record and she as well (not just with you but also with past partners), than you are correct. It is always good to have a bit of life of your own outside a RS. Also, how old you the two of you?
Author melbourneboy Posted June 3, 2012 Author Posted June 3, 2012 I am 27 and she is 23 She thought I went to the strippers cos I spent $100 (she was checking my bank account) there is no reason for her to accuse me of this because it has never been a issue between us, I've never been to the strippers. Btw this isn't the first time this thing has happened its literally everytime I go out which is very rare (we spend all our lives together) she threatens to leave and doesn't speak to me for at least one day.
hiimgerman Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 She loves you to the point that she can't live without you! If you are okay with that then ask her to forgive you (even if you think you've done no wrong)! If it's gonna annoy you to an intolerable extent then um yea. Always try to talk to her though
Casablanca Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 I'd directly talk to her about this problem and how she gets mad every time you go out with friends which is only a few times a year
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