caligirl23 Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 A guy I was dating for a month dumped me saying that he wasn't falling in love with me. It really caught me by surprise because we were just enjoying each other's companys and seeing where things would go is what I thought. He bought me flowers, told his parents about me, had me meet his friends, and I went on vacation for a week and got texts from him daily, telling me how much he missed me and was lucky to have me, etc. I got a text from him saying "Can't wait to see you again, beautiful" and then 3 days later, the calls stopped, the texts stopped and when I inquired why, he dumped me, telling me he wasn't falling in love with me and in other relationships, he felt those feelings sooner and think they aren't coming with me. I think it is way too soon to make that type of decision. Mind you, his best friend told me that when "Joe" met me, he was like a "kid on Christmas", talking about me, and super excited. I know he didn't meet anyone else, so please spare me those comments. I think he might have gotten scared and isn't sure what he wants, so after telling him to take some time to think about what he was saying to me, there was still NC. I told him I gave up. We work at the same place, different department, so he immediately texted me with and excuse to come see me for something at work the next day. I had a death in the family and told him about it and since then, the texts have flooded in with support and kindness, telling me to let him know if there was anything he can do. I am not talking about one obligatory, nice person text either, but more like 5 of the same kind. I saw him at work for the first time since the split and he was super cold and distant, when the night before, he was so warm and caring with his texts. What is he doing?? It's one or the other, pal! So, I asked him to stop contacting me and to take my number out of his phone. I am just super irritated with the hot and cold. I really do care for this man and wish he would come to his senses and give us a real shot without getting scared, but it's really hard to read him. His response, "Why are you so upset with me?". I didn't answer. So, my question is, if this is a man with no interest in me, why would he continuosly offer support? One text alone would be sufficient, but it seems like he is using the family tragedy as an excuse to contact me. What is with him?
babycrapgreen Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I think he's just being supportive during a time of grieving. If he wasn't text messaging you before the death, right? And all he's offering is support and nothing else... I don't see how it could not be anything else.
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