matt1022 Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Do you think people who belong together sometimes break up because a relationship felt routine.....but find there way back together when they realize it wasn't as routine as they thought? I feel this is where me and my ex are is she thought we were a routine couple doing nothing lovey just following the motions and says to know if I'm the one she needs to make sure. Do you think this is possible?
caligirl23 Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 Do you think people who belong together sometimes break up because a relationship felt routine.....but find there way back together when they realize it wasn't as routine as they thought? I feel this is where me and my ex are is she thought we were a routine couple doing nothing lovey just following the motions and says to know if I'm the one she needs to make sure. Do you think this is possible? It is definitely possible, but you just need to make sure that you are still part of her life in some way. I am not saying to allow yourself to get in the friend zone, but maybe try to do things to remind her of how you two fell for each other and why. Take her to her favorite restaurant. Go do some fun activity that she always wanted to do. If you two are bored, then spice it up, don't allow a break up. Every relationship has ups and downs and if it gets stale, the answer is not to bail, so maybe you two are better off w/o each other? Maybe not. I say don't give up so easily. Try!!
theoris Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 (edited) its good that youre both receptive of this now. communication is key. from my position this was lacking. in retrospect i would have gave it all but i hadnt an idea. regret weighs heavier tenfold then current struggle. worst thing ive gone through. unchecked uncertainty is a very slippery slope. Edited June 3, 2012 by theoris
Author matt1022 Posted June 3, 2012 Author Posted June 3, 2012 sadly we have broken up but just recent and these were her comments and we havnt spoken in about a week i feel like time apart is needed for both of us but it kills me to be away from him and according to her sister who i talk to all the time she's happy right now but i think its because for the first time she's not stressing about how to handle the feelings she has been feeling
mephisto Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 i think she will be back but make sure you give her what she needs : you becoming a challenge, dont let her take you for granted and dont place all your happiness around her. How ? go out and have fun now,show her you dont need her. sadly we have broken up but just recent and these were her comments and we havnt spoken in about a week i feel like time apart is needed for both of us but it kills me to be away from him and according to her sister who i talk to all the time she's happy right now but i think its because for the first time she's not stressing about how to handle the feelings she has been feeling
bamp78 Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 My sister did this with the guy she eventually married and while it took her a while to sort things out she did see other guys in the mean time and I know it hurt her well now husband. He waited cause he felt like she was worth it and it worked out for him/them. I feel for you man you are carrying a burden that is not easy.
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