Need help getting over a 5 year relashionship.. HElp me please

[gusman35]

been with the same girl for 5 and 1/2 years since I was in high school.. We have broke up before but have always worked it out and got back together.. this time I think she has already stopped loving me and has moved on.. My hart is truly broken.. I have no clue what to do with myself.. I am losing my mind.. I still love her in fact I feel as that I love her more then ever.. I don't know how to let her go and I think about her everyday all day.. HELP ME PLEASE!!!

[StartingAgain]

Ah, gusman, I'm sorry for you. You are in for a painful time and these's nothing to be done for it but get through it. It's going to take awhile. Surround yourself with family and friends for support. Allow yourself to grieve your loss and give yourself time to heal. I doubt anyone can tell you how to let her go. You don't want to let her go and would give anything to turn back time so you could find a way not to end up where you are now. But you can't and you have to deal with where you are.

 

But take heart. One day, and that day isn't so far off, your notice that you don't hurt quite as bad. You'll start getting better day-by-day. Then one day you're heart will say that it's tired of feeling this way and you will have turned a corner. Before you know it, the world won't seem so dark and gloomy. You find yourself laughing again and wanting to do things that you haven't done for awhile.

 

Sometime within the next few days (if it hasn't already happened), you are going to start feeling angry at her for having abandoned you. This is normal. Just don't become bitter. You may also feel that this can't be happening, that maybe its' all a mistake, that you can change her mind, etc. This is denial. It's a normal part of the grieveing process, too. Do some reading on the stages of grief, so you'll understand what's happening to you. Forewarned is forearmed.

[Baby Beaver]

I'm going through the exact same thing. My boyfriend of 2.5 years came home from work yesterday and announced that he wanted us to split up. I feel like my world is crashing around me. We have a house together and I really thought we could do the distance. I feel like such a fool because I didn't see it coming. I just don't know what to do with myself. I want us to still be friends and he said that's cool but i'm dreading the day that I see him with someone else. I don't know what to do

[StartingAgain]

Did he give you a reason, Baby Beaver? There has to be a reason. One doesn't wake up one day after being in a relationship for 2.5 years and think "say, I don't ant to do this anymore."

[Baby Beaver]

yeah, that he doesn't love me anymore. the thing that upsets me the most is that only the day before i recieved several text messages from him saying 'i love you' at the end. I'm going through the worst time ever at the moment. He is still living with me until I find a new housemate and he finds another place to live. I can't even begin to heal while he's still there but i cannot afford the house on my own.

[hunterboyhun]

hey,

i read your reply to the first post and i just had to say that was a really nice bunch of things you said. it even made me feel a bit better. you're totally right about getting hip to the stages of grief... forewarned is forarmed. And what can you really say to anyone who loses someone... grief comes and you have to live through it... there really isn't much choice... just batten down the hatches and so on. But your words were cool. Very nicely put. I just wanted to say thanks, for my sake.

 

 

Cheers