Can't stop myself seeing her facebook and POF

[sam2012]

I'm addicted to checking my ex's Facebook page. Yes I know I could delete her I just can't bring myself to do it.

 

 

 

Even worse seeing she is online on POF, every time I see her online on POF with the option to "Chat with xxxx" my head is filled with "yep, she's got another message". Then she goes offline, and will see her back online a short while later, and again "yep, another message".

 

 

And there it is. She’s moving on, meeting other guys. It’s inevitable I know but it cuts me up.

 

I just can't help myself

[Dime_Girl]

How you attack this all depends on whether you want to get back with her or not.

 

If you do: you need to take some time away by not checking her social media & NC and think about why you broke up. Then you can take a leap of faith and try to fix it.

 

But if this is done, I would delete her off FB and POF because you will always set yourself back by checking things. And you will ALWAYS assume she's talking to someone, everybody does it. But you don't know that she is and if she is, that's all the more motivation for you to try to move on but that starts with self-discipline to not check her out online. It's hard but it must be done to move on.

[smudge21]

What do you want from people here? No one can give you the medicine to cure this ill, nothing we say will make you stop looking at her FB and making yourself feel bad. Only you can stop doing this, you alone.

 

I've been there, was thinking about my ex for well over a year. Didn't matter what I read here or what advice I was given, the fact is, it only came to an end when I no longer checked out her life.

 

It's said the first two weeks you go without looking is a step in right direction, so why not try that. Either way, force yourself not to look... or carry on looking and never heal. Wish I could be more helpfull.

[mattr89]

think of it this way... NOTHING you see on her facebook is going to make you feel any better about the situation. Your mind is looking for some sort of reassurance that she wants you back or isnt doing good, but in the end you are always causing yourself more and more discomfort.

 

I cant stress this enough, just have some discipline and stop. I did the SAME thing for a while and every time i got more and more hurt untill i finally realized im only inflicting pain on myself. Everyone is right, you have to make the conscious decision to stop

[CopingGal]

I deleted my facebook account today. I blocked the bastard I dated a long time ago. I blocked that bastard almost a year ago. Checked his facebook page once since then and had a huge setback. Never went back to his page. Screw facebook. Screw him.

[nanbullen]

It's hard to block that person, believe me, it took me a month. But by then I was driving myself crazy looking at his fb even though i had unfriended him. I can't think of one good thing that i learned from checking his facebook. Not one. There was never a status update in any way pertaining to me. There was never a status update about how lonely he was.

 

But what did happen is, I would feel sad and upset every time i saw his picture. I would feel depressed because he was going on with his life like he forgot I ever existed. Also i lived in a CONSTANT state of anxiety that one day i will click on his page and he will pictures of him and another woman, or change his relationship status. I was terrified of what i would see....and yet i kept going back.

 

I finally blocked him right before he put up a slew of pictures and videos dedicated to her. Don't let this happen to you. You will wish you never got on facebook.

[radiodarcy]

i've done this in the past as well. i thought that the that if i checked his facebook and online dating accts, the pain of seeing him move on would help me move on.it didn't work. it only made me more upset to the point where i was driving myself crazy with jealousy.

 

the only thing that did work was deleting him and to stop looking completely. anytime i wanted to take a peek - - i reminded myself of how much it hurt to see those things. i know it sounds trite but it worked.

 

look at it this way- - the more you look at her facebook and POF, the more you're allowing her actions to control how you think and feel. so, take it back!