Jingle14 Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 My ex, who I truly believed (and still do, and I say this as someone who was married to someone else for 22 years before he and I got together) was the love of my life, lives - and works - in my neighbourhood, so every time I go out of my house, there is a chance I will bump into him or see him in his car. Thank God I have so far managed to avoid seeing him with my replacement. Not only this, but his parents live on the only road leading to my house and I have no option but to drive past it (I sometimes avoid going out just so I don't have to). His car is often there and it is a painful reminder for me, of all the happy times we shared in that car, of places we went to, just sitting in it together with a hand always affectionally resting on each other's legs. I just got home and, not only is his car at his parents but that of his 2 brothers. I think it's his mum's birthday around about now and I find it unbearable knowing they are all there celebrating, less a 3 minute walk from my home, my replacement no doubt there, and his daughter who I was never introduced to, in the house where I spent New Year's Eve with him the year before last. My replacement will be there now - at his side where I once was, and should still be - with him and all his family, holding her hand like he always held mine. How much more is my heart supposed to take. It's unbearable, and it is a year this month that I was dumped. How can I 'get over it' when I have this constant reminder. It is like a dagger in my heart every time I step out of my front door.
Dime_Girl Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Maybe try a different route to go places. It may seem a little extra but you have to do what you have to do to for yourself. Also, try not to think of your "replacement".. most people dont have a hard time with the breakup, it's the new person in their life that bothers them the most. Dont hold onto the "what ifs" and try to move on gradually with NC whatsoever.
Insanityshorse Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 She said it was the only road to her house, she has no other option but to drive by. It seems moving is the only options...
Author Jingle14 Posted June 2, 2012 Author Posted June 2, 2012 Maybe try a different route to go places. It may seem a little extra but you have to do what you have to do to for yourself. Also, try not to think of your "replacement".. most people dont have a hard time with the breakup, it's the new person in their life that bothers them the most. Dont hold onto the "what ifs" and try to move on gradually with NC whatsoever. I do go a different route (which means I don't have to go past his office, a 2 minute ride from me and on the other main road to anywhere, so I go out of my way not to do that) but I cannot avoid the parent's house or the street leading to his house as it's on the same road as my child's school. Unfortunately. The school my child will be going to in September is across the road from his street and I am already dreading it as I have not been anywhere near the house for 8 months.
Author Jingle14 Posted June 2, 2012 Author Posted June 2, 2012 She said it was the only road to her house, she has no other option but to drive by. It seems moving is the only options... Not easy as I own the house and it's also my child's home. He's had enough upheaval with my split from his father (not the ex who broke my heart) so I'd rather not uproot him just now. I'd have gone months ago but for that.
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