Breaking up after 2 years, I feel trapped.

[lovinghut]

I want to break up with my boyfriend of about 2 years because I am feeling trapped. There's a few reasons.

 

I don't feel attracted to him anymore. I try to be logical about him but I can't anymore. I just show up and pretend everything is okay when things are not. We've talked about this a few times but my heart just isn't there anymore. We tried doing fun activities, etc.

 

I'm pretty depressed. I lost my job last year and feel like I dont' have much control over my life. My boyfriend has been supportive but I feel like he's starting to resent me because I can't do much (both contribute financially, activity wise, etc).

 

I'm having trouble being present in the relationship because I feel sad. He doesn't understand me and doesn't know how to help me which is okay but I feel very lonely in the relationship.

 

We currently don't live together. I feel so trapped by him. I know he is going through a lot at work but I feel like that way he handles things are bad. I never noticed this before because I usually happy but after the job loss I feel so down I started to see all the holes in the relationship. Can someone who went through similar process (leaving unfulfilling relationship) give me some advice on how to do this?

 

I feel scared because my job situation is unstable but I feel like I don't love him anymore I'm 28 years old

Edited June 2, 2012 by lovinghut

[Philosoraptor]

Are these feelings caused by your losing the job? Feelings about other parts of life can often mingle their way into relationships.

 

What do you feel will get better by ending this relationship? And do you think you would feel differently if you found a job you were happy with?

[wilsonx]

The relationship is over... no stopping it, the only way to set you free is to end it.

 

I've been in your shoes, there's nothing you can do to stop it, just go with the flow. I understand whats going on in your little world up there

 

Good luck

Edited June 3, 2012 by wilsonx