Teal Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 What does that even mean? How do you "prove" you want someone, in most cases? Where do people learn this kind of crap? How did I arrive here, let's see... 1) "Be honest with me, I value honesty above all else. If there's a problem, I want to know." 2) "Holy balls, a problem! No - prove you want me before we start working on it!" Because being honest knowing it would get me in trouble instead of lying or cheating doesn't prove anything.
esteem-jam Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 So this is about certain somebody? I think the sole fact that you are speaking with him is a proof enough that you want him. ---> You are having a conversation (however su**y) with him, not anybody else, you are in this moment, with him, you are asking questions. Then there are bigger things somebody sees as "proof" : you initiate contact, you make free time for them, show interest, you give gifts, support them in hard times, etc. Then there is even more "proof"- somebody may think it is: having sex with them. That counts, but only as a natural progression. I would not want that somebody shows her "proof" that way to me at the start- would seem very callous. And if you have sex with them, not anybody else, it shows as proof.
Author Teal Posted June 2, 2012 Author Posted June 2, 2012 (edited) So this is about certain somebody? I think the sole fact that you are speaking with him is a proof enough that you want him. ---> You are having a conversation (however su**y) with him, not anybody else, you are in this moment, with him, you are asking questions. Then there are bigger things somebody sees as "proof" : you initiate contact, you make free time for them, show interest, you give gifts, support them in hard times, etc. Then there is even more "proof"- somebody may think it is: having sex with them. That counts, but only as a natural progression. I would not want that somebody shows her "proof" that way to me at the start- would seem very callous. And if you have sex with them, not anybody else, it shows as proof. The guy from this thread, yes. Things calmed down but after that and a bit of space things never really got back on track. The synergy was gone. We were both very busy with work and had little time for the kind of serious discussions and topics that brought us together in the first place, leaving us with only fluff when we were together. I'm not romantic and things like cuddling, sweet talking, etc, are expressions of feeling close to someone, not what makes me feel close in and of themselves. My eyes started wandering a little too much, so I felt guilty and confessed that I was feeling distant and distracted. I was under the impression that it would hurt but we'd focus on solutions, like getting back to why we were together in the first place. He honed in on the "distracted" part and started to panic, said that before anything else I needed to "prove" I wanted him, I couldn't and the relationship was over. Bam. Edited June 2, 2012 by Teal
darkmoon Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 prove? somebody has been listening to a badly wrtten love song, but i'm just off to try to justify my love while orgasming, so what do i know?
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