avon20 Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 And once tha breaking point is reached there is no going back. It is much harder for men to get a 2nd chance after a break up than it is for women. Women have a certain threshold and once she dumps you chances are the only thing she wants from the dumpee is to leave her alone. She doesn't want to be a part of your life anymore. She does not care whether you have changed for the better or not after the breakup. She does not care whether you have learned from your mistakes or not. She does not care whether you have found a new girlfriend or not. It is over. Whatever lessons you learned from the breakup will have to be applied to a new woman. The thing is usually women think long and hard before breaking up with you so that by the time it happens it is too late to fix the damage. Just like a car engine that blows. It will do no good to add oil afterwards
xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 You seem to forget we are also the most forgiving. The breaking point comes aftr being a complete doormat and realizing we can do much better. Men seem to have the conception that we'll be like their mother but they're wrong. We don't baby you guys and certainly we can not forgive every little mistake. Sometimes things add up. 2
Woggle Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 The one exception is that many times they do care if you find a new girlfriend or you move on. Trust me on that one.
Gulf-Delta Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 And once tha breaking point is reached there is no going back. It is much harder for men to get a 2nd chance after a break up than it is for women. Women have a certain threshold and once she dumps you chances are the only thing she wants from the dumpee is to leave her alone. She doesn't want to be a part of your life anymore. She does not care whether you have changed for the better or not after the breakup. She does not care whether you have learned from your mistakes or not. She does not care whether you have found a new girlfriend or not. It is over. Whatever lessons you learned from the breakup will have to be applied to a new woman. The thing is usually women think long and hard before breaking up with you so that by the time it happens it is too late to fix the damage. Just like a car engine that blows. It will do no good to add oil afterwards LOL. No Women come back all the time. Go read some of the success/reconciliation stories on here. 1
Almond_Joy Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Papercut said it really well. Most women, I think, will give numerous chances well before a break. I hear so many stories from women I interact with who suffer violated boundaries for weeks, months, years....told the guy it was a problem, and he kept doing it.....and so the women threw in the towel. As soon as the woman leaves, the guy starts changing. Then the guy wants to work on the problems. THEN the guy hears what she was saying all along. It's ridiculous!
leoc1973 Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 I completely disagree with the OP. Women get bored. A new guy makes them feel special and gives them butterflies. They dump you to go explore. Guy cries begs pleads. Woman just keeps getting more and more disgusted. Guy finally gives up after he has usually bettered himself and meets a new girl. Then girl goes batshyt crazy and comes begging and crying to get him back because that other guy that she thought was so amazing and gave her all warm fuzzy feelings turned out to be (much to her surprise) just another dumb guy who lied to her and gave her all the lines that she believed like if I was your man I would appreciate you, spoil you, rub your back, buy tampons or whatever little pet peeve she has with you. All of the sudden first guy was amazing and perfect and she just didn't realize it. Sometimes guy takes her back sometimes not. At least in my experience(4 times) because I am a pretty decent guy. I think OP is thinking more of the guys that really deserve a dumping. 3
Author avon20 Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 Yeah I am referring to jerks who get dumped because of the way they treat her. Showing up late on dates, taking her for granted, not being there when she needs him, etc. I never change for the better after I get dumped. If anything I get worse. Either way I know my ex does not care whether I change for the better or not.
Texsec Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 What about the ones who never tell you they are upset, quietly open a hidden bank account, fund it by stealing from the joint account, ask for and get a new car then 2 mo. later you're an aHole who is "controlling and didn't dance with me New Years of 06"..??? If a woman tells you "This is what I need to be ok" LISTEN TO HER..... Ladies, guys are dense...GET IN OUR FACE, explain when things are important to you and HOW important they are, not just in passing at breakfast...And don't keep it to yourself if you are bent about something....That "little book" in your mind of stupid things we did wrong should not be kept closed then thrown at us when its full......TELL US WTF YOU WANT! then if he doesn't listen its on his head........ 2
Reddice Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 (edited) If a woman tells you "This is what I need to be ok" LISTEN TO HER..... Ladies, guys are dense...GET IN OUR FACE, explain when things are important to you and HOW important they are, not just in passing at breakfast...And don't keep it to yourself if you are bent about something....That "little book" in your mind of stupid things we did wrong should not be kept closed then thrown at us when its full......TELL US WTF YOU WANT! then if he doesn't listen its on his head........ And if you DO listen, they still leave you. Because then you have no self respect, you don't follow your dreams, you don't stand up for yourself/what you believe in, you don't blablablabla. Basically, you're not the man they fell in love with all those years ago. So you see... as a man, you can never truly win. A woman will leave you sooner or later. Oh, the irony of life! Edited June 7, 2012 by Reddice 1
worldgonewrong Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 The thing is usually women think long and hard before breaking up with you And sometimes their thinking is so self-absorbed and skewed that they don't see their own hand in the relationship's demise.
joopjoop90 Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 And sometimes their thinking is so self-absorbed and skewed that they don't see their own hand in the relationship's demise. This! I think that's a sign of emotional immaturity and self-centeredness. The girl that brought me here failed to look inwards during our breakup, and got upset when I raised concerns about how she treated during our relationship, 3 DAYS LATER when she came knocking at my door regretting breaking up with me. In the end she was sour because I didn't come running back, and while I imagine she's kicking herself for ending the relationship, she doesn't have the ability to take criticism or reflect on herself.
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