RubIxSKube Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 "i'll love you until the time comes when we cuddle up in bed for the last time and say.... goodnight darling, i'll see you in heaven..." -- my fiance to me. hey everyone, the name's Kris, I'm a 28 year old guy from Newcastle, England. I recently went through quite a sudden breakup, and have been struggling with feelings of loneliness and heartbreak ever since. People have told me to just move on... but I just can't do it, my ex was the only person that ever really 'got me', and I have been trying to adjust to the loss of my rock/best friend, and failing miserably. But I hope people here will take the time to read on and hopefully understand and offer me some opinions... I got together with my girlfriend at the beginning of last year, following somewhat of 'a chase' on her part, as I had every for somebody else this 'chase' lasted a couple of months, until one day I just gave in to the fact that I was head-over-heels with her.... that we had so much in common, despite the glaring age difference -- she was 19 and I was 27 at the time. We shared so many wild adventures together -- the sort of fun-loving and sweet hearted girl I had always dreamed of She had a daughter, 13 months, from a previous abusive relationship.... whom I absolutely adored, she even began calling me 'daddy' on her own whim... which I got used to and loved, considering my own upbringing was so similar, we saw the highs and lows -- we got engaged, we even lost a baby together, but it bonded us, we were the perfect tiny family. This is until the beginning of december, the name of an old school friend (I'll call him DB) began to crop up in our conversations more and more often. He had no interest in her prior to our engagement -- and I knew this guy, he had form for breaking relationships by going behind the lad's back and gradually alienating the female half before taking the prize in the ensuing breakup. I know this because he had done it with one of my female friends, and tried and failed with another, so he had a track record. So it was to my massive surprise, when I had logged in to my fiance'd Facebook (we had the same passwords, as a sign of trust) to play a little practical joke on her (which we did regularly) -- that I see a notification from DB in her inbox, stating his intention to meet her off the bus when she went to her auntys house, and trying to gently cajole her towards his house. Intrigued, and knowing his work... I look backwards into the conversation, and he was putting the moves to her, with lines such as 'll lie here at night thinking of the things we could be doing together and how happy I could be making you'... I questioned her as to why she didnt tell me she was meeting DB, an all out slanging match ensued, with lines from her such as 'i don't have to tell you f**king anything!'... I told her never to talk to me again, as I like at least a little bit of honesty, as I would do with her. An hour later, she talks me round 'I'm sorry baby I love you so much'... so I let it lie. Christmas comes and goes, we divided the day between our families, during which I record a card from her mum and stepdad thanking me for giving them their happy daughter back -it was the pinnacle of my life, the most rewarding moment ever --and me and my fiance were absolutely fine, nothing was amiss -- I kissed her goodbye and went back to my family house to pick up my stuff, and told her I'd see her tomorrow, I never did. Over the course of the following 3 days, she was 'ill'... and told me to keep sway. Which I did, as she was adamant. However, on 28th December I recieve a phonecall ---which went thus: 'i don't love you anymore, I want to be single, im too young yo be tied down in a relationship, I need space'... and after much crying and pleading from me (normally very chirpy and upbeat) that was it... a year of happiness, gone in a flash, completely out of the blue. I went into meltdown, even lapsing into a kind of stalker regime... because she had become very abrasive and wouldn't even talk to me, respond to texts, anything. I only wanted my say, I wanted answers... I never physically confronted her, but I did see her out and about sometimes (done quite deliberately) mainly because of how much I missed her and just longed to see her face. This came to an abrupt end however, when I found out through a mutual friend that DB had showed up at her house --- 3 days after our split to 'comfort' her.... and he promptly asked her out, they have been together ever since (2 months) ... Seems like a case of 'job well done' for him.... a lot of people that know them both say it wont last, as DB is not the sort for relationships and kids... so it remains to be seen how that will go. In the meantime, the down-to-earth fun loving girl I knew has become a black haired, makeup clad, self obsessed monster.... blocked me out from her life, made me the subject of various indirect slanging sessions on Facebook with her mother (from which I am blocked) ... her family clearly have no idea what went on, they are simply hearing her side and judging me for it. I do deeply regret my actions as far as turning into a slightly obsessive stalker for a small time, I truly hate what she has become -- but I still miss her terribly, I see her everywhere in my mind.... the places we went, its like im seeing ghosts, everywhere I look there is a memory. I dont know what to do... she is the love of my life, she was my best friend and my rock --- im sad to admit it, but I'd welcome her back with open arms.... I wonder..... did she ever love me...? for me it was real.... for her, I'm not so sure.
Gulf-Delta Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 "i'll love you until the time comes when we cuddle up in bed for the last time and say.... goodnight darling, i'll see you in heaven..." -- my fiance to me. hey everyone, the name's Kris, I'm a 28 year old guy from Newcastle, England. I recently went through quite a sudden breakup, and have been struggling with feelings of loneliness and heartbreak ever since. People have told me to just move on... but I just can't do it, my ex was the only person that ever really 'got me', and I have been trying to adjust to the loss of my rock/best friend, and failing miserably. But I hope people here will take the time to read on and hopefully understand and offer me some opinions... I got together with my girlfriend at the beginning of last year, following somewhat of 'a chase' on her part, as I had every for somebody else this 'chase' lasted a couple of months, until one day I just gave in to the fact that I was head-over-heels with her.... that we had so much in common, despite the glaring age difference -- she was 19 and I was 27 at the time. We shared so many wild adventures together -- the sort of fun-loving and sweet hearted girl I had always dreamed of She had a daughter, 13 months, from a previous abusive relationship.... whom I absolutely adored, she even began calling me 'daddy' on her own whim... which I got used to and loved, considering my own upbringing was so similar, we saw the highs and lows -- we got engaged, we even lost a baby together, but it bonded us, we were the perfect tiny family. This is until the beginning of december, the name of an old school friend (I'll call him DB) began to crop up in our conversations more and more often. He had no interest in her prior to our engagement -- and I knew this guy, he had form for breaking relationships by going behind the lad's back and gradually alienating the female half before taking the prize in the ensuing breakup. I know this because he had done it with one of my female friends, and tried and failed with another, so he had a track record. So it was to my massive surprise, when I had logged in to my fiance'd Facebook (we had the same passwords, as a sign of trust) to play a little practical joke on her (which we did regularly) -- that I see a notification from DB in her inbox, stating his intention to meet her off the bus when she went to her auntys house, and trying to gently cajole her towards his house. Intrigued, and knowing his work... I look backwards into the conversation, and he was putting the moves to her, with lines such as 'll lie here at night thinking of the things we could be doing together and how happy I could be making you'... I questioned her as to why she didnt tell me she was meeting DB, an all out slanging match ensued, with lines from her such as 'i don't have to tell you f**king anything!'... I told her never to talk to me again, as I like at least a little bit of honesty, as I would do with her. An hour later, she talks me round 'I'm sorry baby I love you so much'... so I let it lie. Christmas comes and goes, we divided the day between our families, during which I record a card from her mum and stepdad thanking me for giving them their happy daughter back -it was the pinnacle of my life, the most rewarding moment ever --and me and my fiance were absolutely fine, nothing was amiss -- I kissed her goodbye and went back to my family house to pick up my stuff, and told her I'd see her tomorrow, I never did. Over the course of the following 3 days, she was 'ill'... and told me to keep sway. Which I did, as she was adamant. However, on 28th December I recieve a phonecall ---which went thus: 'i don't love you anymore, I want to be single, im too young yo be tied down in a relationship, I need space'... and after much crying and pleading from me (normally very chirpy and upbeat) that was it... a year of happiness, gone in a flash, completely out of the blue. I went into meltdown, even lapsing into a kind of stalker regime... because she had become very abrasive and wouldn't even talk to me, respond to texts, anything. I only wanted my say, I wanted answers... I never physically confronted her, but I did see her out and about sometimes (done quite deliberately) mainly because of how much I missed her and just longed to see her face. This came to an abrupt end however, when I found out through a mutual friend that DB had showed up at her house --- 3 days after our split to 'comfort' her.... and he promptly asked her out, they have been together ever since (2 months) ... Seems like a case of 'job well done' for him.... a lot of people that know them both say it wont last, as DB is not the sort for relationships and kids... so it remains to be seen how that will go. In the meantime, the down-to-earth fun loving girl I knew has become a black haired, makeup clad, self obsessed monster.... blocked me out from her life, made me the subject of various indirect slanging sessions on Facebook with her mother (from which I am blocked) ... her family clearly have no idea what went on, they are simply hearing her side and judging me for it. I do deeply regret my actions as far as turning into a slightly obsessive stalker for a small time, I truly hate what she has become -- but I still miss her terribly, I see her everywhere in my mind.... the places we went, its like im seeing ghosts, everywhere I look there is a memory. I dont know what to do... she is the love of my life, she was my best friend and my rock --- im sad to admit it, but I'd welcome her back with open arms.... I wonder..... did she ever love me...? for me it was real.... for her, I'm not so sure. GiGs man. Look it up on this forum. Most of the people here are going through or have gone through losing someone to it, myself included. It hurts like hell, I know, but you need to cut her out of your life in order to make yourself feel better.
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