LoveLost1020 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 (edited) I've recently broken up with my college sweetie for the final time. She graduated and is moving back home and I'm home for the summer as well but going back to school in the fall, but anyway, it's bittersweet but im mostly sad We were kind of in a relationship, just without the actual "title". We met in early Dec of last year and it's been great minus other things (i'll get to that) and it's not easy to get over someone you spent almost everyday with so quickly and had a genuine connection with. Like I said, things were really amazing between us. I've never had a connection with any female like I had with her, not even my past gf of almost 3 years. We just slowly started to fall for each other. But the thing that confuses me is why am I dwelling on this break up??? She lied to me twice before. She lied to my face and tried so hard to cover it up before I had to beat the truth out of her (not literally) and she doesn't know I know about the second lie she told me and has also done other things that rubbed me the wrong way. You would think I'd be a little more ok with this, but all I do is miss her :/ We even got in a argument right before school ended and I didn't even go to her graduation, which I feel guilty about now surprisingly. WTH is wrong with me?? I know I should be happy that I don't have to deal with lies and other BS anymore, but I just simply miss her. I'm trying to think about the BS she put me through and use that as fuel for the fire but I just keep thinking about all the good times....blah! Is it normal to feel guilty in a way like it was my fault? I know deep down she doesn't deserve me, and i'm trying to convince myself of that but it's tough..any suggestions? Edited June 1, 2012 by LoveLost1020
Philosoraptor Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 It's natural to miss someone even if they were very bad for you. Is it her that you miss or the companionship? For now take a step back and try to look at things realistically. Things were good at times but there were also a bunch of issues and red flags.
Author LoveLost1020 Posted June 1, 2012 Author Posted June 1, 2012 It's natural to miss someone even if they were very bad for you. Is it her that you miss or the companionship? For now take a step back and try to look at things realistically. Things were good at times but there were also a bunch of issues and red flags. Wow, I have to think about that. I'm really not sure if I miss her, or the thought of her, if that makes any sense. I'm gonna try and think about all the red flags that were in there too. Thanks for the advice.
Philosoraptor Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 It's true that many times early in a breakup we don't miss the person as much as having someone. It's why it becomes important to once again become happy being single and with yourself before jumping into another relationship as that relationship might come just for comfort rather than out of pure intentions.
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