folx Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 so now its like 30 days that i didnt contact my ex at all,so i just want to know that what is the best way for making that contact? any ideas?!
robkris8079 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I'm on like 90 days and despite multiple attempts by her to contact me I just don't respond. She want's to be friends and I don't. She doesn't benefit my life in anyway right now so no need for her to be in it. One day I might be able to be friends with her I don't really know though. I don't want her back and actually am in a new wonderful relationship. So really why would I contact her? Why are you wanting to contact her?
gmoore Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 "Why are you wanting to contact her?" Because he wants her back I'd Imagine.
Gulf-Delta Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 "Why are you wanting to contact her?" Because he wants her back I'd Imagine. Why? If she hasn't contacted him, his words will only fall on deaf ears. 2
Philosoraptor Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I'd not do so. If you're doing NC in order to get someone back you're just setting yourself up for failure and pain. 3
MissBee Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I'd not do so. If you're doing NC in order to get someone back you're just setting yourself up for failure and pain. I agree. Especially if the other person is the one who initiate the breakup. If you did not initiate the break up and have been in NC for 30 days....stay that way, especially if the person hasn't tried to contact you.
Own Worst Enemy Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 You have posted about "get your ex back" books and now are trying to use NC to get your ex back. Either you need to ask her openly if there is any chance, and if she says no, accept it.... Or....... You are trying to write one of those books and are looking for material!!!
Gulf-Delta Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 The thing is, OP, unless she comes back on her own, you don't want her. Because if she doesn't contact you first, it means she doesn't want a relationship with you, and you don't want someone like that. If she comes back, THEN worry about getting her back..but why chase someone who doesn't wanna be with you. If she wanted to be with you, she would call you.
Author folx Posted June 2, 2012 Author Posted June 2, 2012 why?! cause i really want her !!! i should not just sit on my butt and wait for her call ! yea,i messed many things,but now i wanna show her that i changed and im the one that i used to . we had 3 lovely years,i dont want it to end like this. btw no contact doesnt mean stoping contact at all,you should wait and make the contact at the right time.
Gulf-Delta Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 why?! cause i really want her !!! i should not just sit on my butt and wait for her call ! yea,i messed many things,but now i wanna show her that i changed and im the one that i used to . we had 3 lovely years,i dont want it to end like this. btw no contact doesnt mean stoping contact at all,you should wait and make the contact at the right time. Why do you think she wants to hear from you right now? If she did, wouldn't she call or text you? I know how you feel, but say you call her right this second. What is the desired outcome? What is the likely outcome?
flitzanu Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 why?! cause i really want her !!! i should not just sit on my butt and wait for her call ! yea,i messed many things,but now i wanna show her that i changed and im the one that i used to . we had 3 lovely years,i dont want it to end like this. btw no contact doesnt mean stoping contact at all,you should wait and make the contact at the right time. yeah, people totally change their lives around in under 30 days. you haven't changed, and you aren't going to convince her of anything, except that you're being desperate in contacting her. so don't do it. she doesn't care.
geegirl Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 why?! cause i really want her !!! i should not just sit on my butt and wait for her call ! yea,i messed many things,but now i wanna show her that i changed and im the one that i used to . we had 3 lovely years,i dont want it to end like this. btw no contact doesnt mean stoping contact at all,you should wait and make the contact at the right time. You sat with an itch for 30 days hoping it would be long enough time to wait before hitting the reset button. It was never about change. It seems that you are adamant. IF she wants to get back, anything you say will be welcomed with open arms. Whether it's a simple "Hi" or a summary of "How I Changed in 30 Days". I hope you get the response you want.
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