singlelady12 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I really need some advice on a situation with this guy I've met literally 5 days ago, and I feel he is coming on WAY too strong and fast but it may just be me. So Day 1: He and I met the other day at a mutual friend's party and we all had a really fun time hanging out and drinking. So that nite, we were both drunk and I made out with him (something I would not have done had I been sober), after the party I went home and I thought that was the end of that. Day 2: The next day my friend calls and tells me that the guy, I'll call him G, really likes me and he wanted me to have his number and he looked forward to hearing from me. I was too hung over and sick and didn't feel like talking to G so i didn't call. Day 3: I text him, and he responds by saying he thought I forgot about him, how much he likes me and how beautiful I am. I'm really flattered, but I feel like he was laying it on a bit thick. That nite, he called me about 5 times, each time saying he couldn't wait to see, and he was with friends and he would call me back. Why call me if your busy, why not call at a time when you can talk? Day 4: G txts me at 8AM saying "good morning beautiful" and then calls me later that morning. He text me throughout the day saying that he missed me and liked me so much (which i find strange b/c he doesn't even really know me). He keeps calling me sweetheart, or babe, or honey. Then today, Day 5!!! G texts me saying I hadn't text or called him, and that he missed my beautiful smile. I feel like I shouldn't have to explain myself to a guy that I'm not in a relationship with. I have in no way implied that I liked him, I have continuously mentioned that we don't really know each other and that I am not looking for anything serious. Some of my friends thinks that he is being sweet, others think its totally bizarre how in to me he is. The only reason I keep responding to him is b/c we have a mutual friend and I don't want be too mean to him. I am 22 years old, and he is about to be 30..and my question is 1) Is it an age difference thing, he isn't that much older, but do older people usually move that fast..2) Is it just me and maybe I'm not used to such a nice guy..or 3)Am I right and his behavior is completely weird and he is coming on way too strong?? He may be sincere, but my guy tells me he is just being nice to get in my pants and then I'm not going to hear from him ever again. Thoughts/Opinions please!!!!
pteromom Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. If his behavior makes you uncomfortable, trust that. Still, on the off-chance that he is a nice normal guy who just REALLY likes you, I'd give him one more chance. Tell him you are open to getting to know him, but that he is moving too fast for you and is too invested for the little you know each other. If he's a nice, normal guy, he'll back off. If he's a potential stalker or BPD or has other major issues, he won't be able to help himself and he'll keep pushing hard, or will ARGUE with you about how YOU feel. If that's the case, cut off contact with him. 1
FitChick Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 So that nite, we were both drunk and I made out with him He may be sincere, but my guy tells me he is just being nice to get in my pants and then I'm not going to hear from him ever again. You led him on and now he wants to go even further and finish the deed. Tell him you're flattered by his attention but you're going back with an old boyfriend or you just met someone. 2
Phennyphen Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 "Day 3, he texts and says he thought I'd forgot about him" Wob! Wob! Wob! Alarm! Uh Uh! Needy! Byeeee! Trust your instincts, if you think he's going to fast he probably is. If you like him you could tell him you want to take it slow, if not, dump him now. It'll only get worse.
Yookie Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 He figures you're easy because of what you guys did on the first meeting. So now he's going in for the money shot lol. All the stuff he's talking is pure BS but you are feeding the fire by saying that you're not interested in anything serious. That's music to his ears because now he can hit it and quit it whenever the mood strikes! 1
writergal Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 He doesn't take you seriously. He just wants more action and is feeding you some great lines because flattery works quickest on the weak-minded, like a poison arrow. You shouldn't have made out with him when you were drunk. Huge mistake. He'll never see you the way you truly are now, no matter how you back peddle. Cut him loose and next time you go to a party, hold off on the liquor if you see a cute guy and use your lips for conversation rather than swapping spit. Guys like girls who have self-respect. They also like easy girls but for the wrong reasons. 1
truth_seeker Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 You gave him a taste and now he wants to take a bite! He could be a nice guy but because you made out with him, now he's desperate to hook up with you again. You must be a really good kisser.
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