Art_Critic Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 So racism is ok? Glad you cleared that up. Stop it... you yourself in the OP said to "Respect each others deal breakers" Why not just report the post rather than derail your own thread ? and no.. racism isn't okay.. but his deal breaker was ON Topic
Author kaylan Posted June 2, 2012 Author Posted June 2, 2012 However, despite the right everyone has to believe what one wants, not acknowledging whats wrong with hateful racist beliefs is just as bad as one being racist themselves. Theres no need to report his post. He was being honest, and I was being honest in my reply. Hateful beliefs deserve no respect. My thread wasnt derailed btw. I made one post about it. You are derailing it by deciding to come in here and keep on going on about it after others kept the thread going in place. End of story. Keep it moving.
Art_Critic Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 So racism is ok? Glad you cleared that up. Maybe I should have put a disclaimer that things that perpetuate hate in the world are the exception to what I said in my OP. You know what.. your reply to me is just wrong.. you are implying now that I am racist or that I think it is okay.. WTF ? I just read what you added in the edit... You did however put a disclaimer in your OP to "Respect each others deal breakers" While in reality or real life you don't have to respect his viewpoint on his deal breaker you certainly should respect it enough in this thread to not make a mockery of him. Enough said by me.
Art_Critic Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 However, despite the right everyone has to believe what one wants, not acknowledging whats wrong with hateful racist beliefs is just as bad as one being racist themselves. True.. but his belief and viewpoint didn't require a whole page the like of what you posted.. a one liner would have been good enough to get your point across...
Author kaylan Posted June 2, 2012 Author Posted June 2, 2012 (edited) You know what.. your reply to me is just wrong.. you are implying now that I am racist or that I think it is okay.. WTF ? I just read what you added in the edit... You did however put a disclaimer in your OP to "Respect each others deal breakers" While in reality or real life you don't have to respect his viewpoint on his deal breaker you certainly should respect it enough in this thread to not make a mockery of him. Enough said by me. Lmao. Dude, did you really need to waste my time trying to throw my OP in my face because I took exception to a post that comes from a hateful viewpoint? Just because this isnt "real life" doesnt mean racism, sexism, or any isms should be tolerated...no matter what my OP says. Really?...you wanted to talk to me about respect for a racist perspective? Thats why I replied to you the way I did. I find it ridiculous that someone would take issue with my tearing down such a position. Id understand if I attacked a minor dealbreaker...but to take issue at my attacking a racist dealbreaker makes no sense to me. True.. but his belief and viewpoint didn't require a whole page the like of what you posted.. a one liner would have been good enough to get your point across... ^It wasnt a whole page, but thanks for wasting half a posting page discussing this with me. Youve done more derailing then the one post I and another poster made in reply to the seemingly racist post. Thanks =) Edited June 2, 2012 by kaylan
SerCay Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Mine is dishonesty about anything that would be important to a partner or relationship. One lie, and Im done right then and there. My past has taught me that liars deserve zero tolerance. Definitely what you say, dishonesty in that context usually going together with shadiness is a huge turn off Running away from confrontational discussions, not wanting to solve, rather wanting to hide from problems is the second one.. These indicate that a person's not willing to work on the relationship, and love is hard work as wel all know
oranged Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Meanness, a negative, self defeating attitude, overly materialistic, overly superficial, poor social skills, hates kids/animals (I didn't care if he wants to have any but I don't trust people who actively dislike children or animals, really), doesn't donate any money or time to charity, doesn't have an array of friends of both genders, didn't go to college. . . I mean, there are oh-so-many. I must've had 100 dealbreakers, and I still found oodles of men who didn't break them, including Hubby. The more dealbreakers you have, the better, IMO. Helps you find what you want. i have almost all of these.
RiverRunning Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 People who are overly critical and negative about everything. One of my exes was an otherwise great guy, and man, I thought that *I* could be negative until we started dating. Everything was stupid, dumb, unimportant, a waste of time to this guy. He was so freakin' uptight he would feel guilty sometimes about reading fiction books because it was a waste of productivity. Guy would've made an excellent Borg. Any contact with an ex whatsoever. Experience is a great teacher. I won't date guys who have kids (I don't have any of my own and I'd like to experience that 'first' with someone else who is also experiencing it for the first time. No ex-wife or ex-girlfriend drama for me). Perpetual lying. Had an ex who would tell tales ALL of the time. He playfully fought with a friend, who was a black belt, and the next day was telling everyone he was a black belt. Guys who have -severe- mental disorders. I'm not talking a little bit of depression, managed bipolar, etc. Same ex as last time had severe emotional problems. He once told me this pretty chilling story about how he was working (he worked at a grocery store) and he intentionally killed a bird by trapping and crushing it. I told him that was screwed up (in harsher words, however) and then he started changing his story, about how the bird magically escaped before he could do it any harm. I was an idiot. Still don't know why I didn't break up with that nutcase then and there. When I did break up with him, he sent me a message online about how he had a 'dream' that somebody had stabbed me to death. Perhaps fearful I'd take this as a threat and go to the police, he added that he was 'crying' about it. Wow.
Leigh 87 Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 Negative people. Yes life can suck, but you can feel joy and happiness whilst still suffering an ordeal........ Of course, I have things I need in a guy and things I cannot handle. The OP obviously wanted the single biggest one, that we as people find most offensive to our own personal value system. ...............OF COURSE, do things like racism, biggotry, a misogonist, a psychopath, and a sociopath go without saying ?!?!?! 1
Mr Scorpio Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 i'm that. a negative person. i'm very angry that i'm 41 and nobdy will date me. that's why i'm very negative. no girlfriends in 41 years. that would make anybody negative. Unless I am severely mistaken, the Dali Lama hasn't had a girlfriend. Dude is over 60 and he seems rather positive.
oaks Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 Now...for a unconditional dealbreaker...Im talking something that you give no second thought for being enough reason to dump someone or cross them off your list as a potential date. I can only pick 1? I can't count, so here are my top 3: not femaleuglyobesesmoker
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 I have so many, probably few tens. I can list 10 off the top of my head.
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