Please help me with this it feels so heavy

[loco]

hi, im new to this forum. let me tell u a bit about myself

im 19 in a long term relationship with a beautiful girl of the same age, we were both friends and we got closer and closer and now were going out for almost 2 years now, we both truly love each other and we have gone through some tough times, in the beginning we kept it secret because her mum is completely against her dating someone of a different religion, but that didnt stop us, now and then she would get sad and say its over but would come back to me after a few days, one time she called it off for about two weeks and i was about to jump off a bridge at that time but then she missed me and said she was just testing me if i was gonna leave her for this other girl in her street but she saw how i loved her so we are together again, her mum knows she loves me because she told her and they had a big argument and she keeps telling me if she chooses to be with me her mum will disown her,

at one stage we went looking for a house to rent and bought practically every kitchen appliance, then we decided to fix up one room in my parents house for our new bedroom (my parents like her) so we bought alot of bedding stuff and are half way through repainting the room, we promised each other that we will get married, and she always asks about all the possible places we could go, we never really argued, one time it was bad, i went to the movies with my friends and she got angry that i didnt invite her but she was at work when we went so she new it was silly and we got over it.

She really loves me she went against her mum and her brother and sister are ok with us, they say do what u really want,

but now her little brother had some fits, like epileptic fits, and she thinks shes being punished for going against her mum, it happened a few days ago and shes stressed, and i was stressin about her lil brother but he hasnt seisured since that day so it might have just been a one time thing, but now im really worried she might leave me,

i dont want her to leave me, she says she doesnt know what to do, n shes sad, but when were together we have fun we try and go everywhere together as much as we can (while her mums at work etc) and we always talk on the phone every night ever since we were friends exept when she goes through these depressing times like this one, and they scare me because shes so much a part of my life i dont know what to do

[loco]

i apologise for such a big chunk of text it all just poured out,

a little update, last night is when she questioned us being together,

i called her in the morning and it wasnt much of a conversation because she wanted to keep the line free incase the hospital calls about any info on her lil bro's tests

 

tonight as we usually talk on the fone in bed (sounds like a long distance relationship eh?) i sms her a lil earlier than usual if she will be able to call tonight,

she sms me "Hey baby sorry i cant call you tonite coz im sleepin next to mum n bro n i just wanna say nite love you"

 

to me it sounds good any advice?

i still feel lonely and uncertain tho.

but she is worried about her brother

am i just paranoid??

 

i just dont want to lose her we have been through so much and our love is so real and after so long the spark is still there i dont want it to end

[Olivia_19742004]

Considering she's over 18 has she thought about moving out of the home so her family no longer has as much control over her relationships?

[moimeme]

but now her little brother had some fits, like epileptic fits, and she thinks shes being punished for going against her mum

 

She needs to understand that people don't get 'punished' personally and individually. If she's over 18, it's about time she takes on the responsibilities of an adult, including making her own choices in life.

[loco]

she gets sad and feels guilty easily, she cares for her family but she loves me, shes stuck in between.

its just her mum that makes it so difficult, and it makes her feel bad sometimes, she gets sad very easily,

right now i dont think she is going to move out because shes scared for her little brother. her mum works while shes at home cleaning and cooking and taking care of everyone, and shes sick of being a slave.

 

But she knows shes gotta take care of her brother, shes got it tough i think.

i went there today to help and tomorrow i will take them out because her bro has school holidays, and they want to do something.

but her mum gets angry about it sometimes and gives her hell, but its not like im doin anything wrong, just that im a boy and she likes my company.

 

maybe once the fuss about her bro is in the past our plans of living together will resume, but for now it looks like on hold or something.

 

-As for her bro getting sick as punishment for being with me, shes pretty superstitious, her mum makes her feel like shes doin something bad, so she gets sad when things happen but the doc said its common in kids.

 

if only her mum accepted it everyone would be so much happier