verhrzn Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 . As far as I'm aware, his work is a little bit more.........sophisticated. I don't know a massive deal because......well, I'm not a Gok Wan fan in general, just that I am a fan of the fact that he gives women confidence. So do drugs, but I don't see a lot of people advocating that strategy. (I just really, really hate skinny jeans...)
d'Arthez Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Then don't wear them V.. Wear what feels good to you, what you are comfortable being in. Be yourself, and be confident in yourself. Self-confidence is way more attractive than fitting in some skinny jeans.
ThaWholigan Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 So do drugs, but I don't see a lot of people advocating that strategy. (I just really, really hate skinny jeans...) I hate skinny jeans too . If someone likes wearing them, cool. You wouldn't catch me dead in them though. Seriously, I will haunt the mother****er who puts them on my dead body. I don't think he is the skinny jeans prescribing fashion dude though. Most of the time, the women wear very flattering clothes and dresses and such.
RedRobin Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 For those of you who are really curious about the difference between being truly 'beautiful' and just photogenic... try this. Find a way to get in on a film shoot or audition in some capacity. I kinda fell into one myself because they were short on bodies for a major film being shot in my little po-dunk town. The 'stars' looked quite ordinary in real life, but somehow just popped on screen. I'm sure the reverse happens to alot of people too... for some reason, the lens doesn't love them, but in real life, they are alot more attractive. Here's a trick... first... never, ever shoot anything with your phone camera. Lenses notoriously suck on those. second... well, find a camera with a high quality lens. Trying to get a good picture from a crappy lens is like trying to represent oneself accurately by reflection in a fun-house mirror. Works for some. Not for most though. Other than that, it is all about lighting and positioning. Many professional photographers like to shoot in early morning or late afternoon. Full midday sun, standard office lighting (fluorescent/cfls)... don't work well for most people. oh, and smile
RedRobin Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Thus why I need a good photographer's eye. We all do. They are amazing at what they do. The best manage to just make the person look like they authentically are... and yet more compelling. I love the pics posted at Jacob's Pillow (a dance theatre located in MA). Alot of famous dancers come here to perform. A few of them agreed to be shot dancing and mostly naked. None of them are perfect by any means. To see them so proud of their bodies... ie, focused on what their bodies do rather than what they look like... is very liberating. Annie Leibovitz is one of my favorite photographers, btw. Overall though, I really think true beauty can come having something that is unique. Everyone has something that makes them beautiful to someone. I truly believe that.
pteromom Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 You do whatever necessary to do what you believe will attract a mate. It's the same way you don't include all of your mental or emotional issues. This actually made me laugh out loud. Hope my coworkers aren't concerned.
pteromom Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 first... never, ever shoot anything with your phone camera. Lenses notoriously suck on those. I would add - don't take your own pic. When you are holding a camera in front of your face, your nose looks larger and it's generally not an attractive look for anyone. second... well, find a camera with a high quality lens. Find a friend with a good camera! Other than that, it is all about lighting and positioning. Many professional photographers like to shoot in early morning or late afternoon. Full midday sun, standard office lighting (fluorescent/cfls)... don't work well for most people. Right. Lighting is key to good photography. My photos have been published in fashion magazines and in ads, and lighting truly is the key. I wish you lived closer, verzhrn, because I would show you that you are a lot more photogenic than you think. You can't judge how photogenic you are by self-portraits. 1
Author irc333 Posted June 1, 2012 Author Posted June 1, 2012 I would add - don't take your own pic. When you are holding a camera in front of your face, your nose looks larger and it's generally not an attractive look for anyone. You mean...."I'm huntin' duck?!" ROFL!!!!!!! 2
wheream_i Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 You do whatever necessary to do what you believe will attract a mate. It's the same way you don't include all of your mental or emotional issues. Totally off subject, but I love your avatar! HAHAHA!!
RiverRunning Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I ALWAYS put up a full-body shot right away. It's not always the clearest but they can at least get a fair idea: "She's thin/she's overweight/she's really fat." Because no matter what picture I put up, I'm sure I'll meet some of these guys and some will say I look 'totally' different and others will say the picture was a spot-on representation of what I look like. Putting up body shots has reduced the number of guys who contact me but at least then they know what they're in for. I'd rather they just not pursue me at all than pursue me, go out on a date with me, and THEN reject me. It's a waste of time if it's a dealbreaker for them.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Peopl do their best to maximize their potential so that people see the best of them. Sometimes certain things are hidden. However, we all do this. This isn't just a matter of physical "flaws" being hidden. No one puts in their profile that they are in x amount of dollars in debt, work at a job they don't really like, don't get along with their family, or the millions upon millions of dysfunctions WE all have unique to us. Maximizing your pictures is nothing different then maximizing your character and interests on dating sites. This is why I think meeting people organically is really best. I also think there is a strange thing that happens online vs real life. I think people become extra critical when looking at just online pictures or Facebook or whatever. In real life, I don't think people are as critical as when the are shopping through pages of people to judge their level of attraction to them. 1
yongyong Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Wearing a make up, dress to kill, hiring a photographer, shoot from the best angle is just fine. Not 'showing your lower body' is deceiving. eg: you saw the car for sale. it shows the front shot and it looks fine. you invested some time talking to the person. you show up to buy the car and find a big dent on the rear bumper. are you supposed to be mad because you wasted time or no?? people need to have some common sense
Disenchantedly Yours Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Wearing a make up, dress to kill, hiring a photographer, shoot from the best angle is just fine. Not 'showing your lower body' is deceiving. eg: you saw the car for sale. it shows the front shot and it looks fine. you invested some time talking to the person. you show up to buy the car and find a big dent on the rear bumper. are you supposed to be mad because you wasted time or no?? people need to have some common sense I agree about the common sense. Do you tell all your potential dates all your problems in life right away? My guess is you don't. You don't want to scare them away right? They don't know exactly what they are getting into emotionally or mentally with you until they actually spend time with you. The problem here is that everyone thinks they deserve to know everything about a person with a snap of their fingers. The problem with this is that is simply unrealistic. People will put their best foot foward when getting to know someone. They will not tell you about their problems and they will not make the parts of their body they feel are flaws obvious. That is common sense. And jsut because internet dating gave way to asking questions about everything from how many kids you want to your income, doesn't mean a person needs to/deserve to or has to know this information right away.
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