irc333 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Not to sound insensitive, but I'm starting to see how obese people try to hide it in their pictures they put up online. 1. Squatting down with a pet/kid in front of them. 2. Trying to be sexy by doing some kind of "peek-a-boo" pose, sticking part of their body from out behind a tree or wall. 3. Best yet, you know how in the old days, where they put the prisoner , where they're bending over all day, and they have to stick their head through a wooden hole , along with their hands, (forgot the term for that device) had a picture of her straight on. 4. Face in hole at a theme park Stuff like that. Or sometimes a pic where their face is really squeezed into their photo so you don't see the rest of their face.
Philosoraptor Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 You do whatever necessary to do what you believe will attract a mate. It's the same way you don't include all of your mental or emotional issues. 4
LittlePrince Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 You do whatever necessary to do what you believe will attract a mate. It's the same way you don't include all of your mental or emotional issues. So are you saying the fat suit will help or hurt?
persevere Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Lots of pics from the chest up, but none otherwise? Hiding.
Philosoraptor Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 So are you saying the fat suit will help or hurt? Depends on what type of person you are attracted to. But I'm one to say just be yourself as it's the best way to attract someone who likes you for you.
Philosoraptor Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 So are you saying the fat suit will help or hurt? Depends on what type of person you are attracted to. But I'm one to say just be yourself as it's the best way to attract someone who likes you for you. 1
oaks Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 3. Best yet, you know how in the old days, where they put the prisoner , where they're bending over all day, and they have to stick their head through a wooden hole , along with their hands, (forgot the term for that device) had a picture of her straight on. You're thinking of a pillory, from which we get the modern day verb meaning "to expose to public derision, ridicule or abuse", but see also stocks. I see the same thing, but I don't think these women (and perhaps men, but I don't look) are thinking "how can I do this deceptively and trick someone into a date?" but rather "which of these pictures are more attractive?" and we're all guilty of that!
Ruby Slippers Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I see the same thing, but I don't think these women (and perhaps men, but I don't look) are thinking "how can I do this deceptively and trick someone into a date?" but rather "which of these pictures are more attractive?" and we're all guilty of that! True. On my dating profiles, I put up a couple of clear face shots and one clear full-body shot. I know how to take good pictures, and I can take pictures of just about anybody (myself included) that make them look gorgeous. (Composition, lighting, angles, environment, etc.) Many people tell me I take the best pictures of them they've ever seen. I've experimented on chat with showing guys different pictures of myself, including the really flattering ones and the less flattering ones - and it's funny to see the different reactions. For my dating profile, I chose pictures that I think really look like me as I am right now, without any whistles and bells. And when I go on dates, the guy usually says he's pleasantly surprised - I'd much rather that than he be disappointed that I don't measure up to my bombshell pics.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I understand that it's a drag to meet someone and see that they look a LOT different than they did in their photos, but I hope you can be charitable. Everybody wants to show themselves in the most flattering light possible. If you feel like you have a giant ass and don't like it, I don't think you'll be featuring it in pictures of yourself. I have rigorously culled photos of myself that I thought made me look fat or ugly or cross-eyed, or whatever, from albums and I was not even hoping to attract anybody with those! So, if a person perceives that their flaw is their weight, they are not likely to display that in their photos. And a person who is not confident in the way their body looks is unlikely to be comfortable showing the world a clear, full body shot. I think it would be preferable to be rejected for the way I look BEFORE a person met me than face to face, but that is just me … and when I online dated, I did NOT choose pictures that presented me in a less than flattering light. I'm not even "fat" and I did, indeed, have one up of me crouching by a giant dog! 1
Ruby Slippers Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 If you feel like you have a giant ass and don't like it, I don't think you'll be featuring it in pictures of yourself. Some people love big asses, so I say flaunt it, weed out the people who don't like it, and focus on attracting the people who appreciate you as you are. I used to try to downplay the fact that I'm tall. Now I realize that some men LOVE it. My full-body shot showcases my nice, looong legs very clearly. And the tall power player guys eat it up. I also used to worry that my ample T and bubble-licious A needed to be downplayed. I've been on a fitness kick and have been slowly shrinking all over. Probably half a dozen guys in the past month have told me "don't lose any more weight, because I loooove your curves". I was afraid to put myself out there for a long time. Now I'm doing it, flaws and all, and getting all this appreciation and love. So I say let it all hang out
FitChick Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 On my dating profiles, I put up a couple of clear face shots and one clear full-body shot. I'd much rather that than he be disappointed that I don't measure up to my bombshell pics. I don't have professional glamor shots done for that reason. I don't look like that in daily life. I am a casual person so my photos are generally of me in slim fitting clothing that shows off my body without showing a lot of skin, i.e. tee shirt and capris. When I have a boyfriend, I plan to get a glamor shot done by this photographer if I can afford it. He does amazing work if you like the old Hollywood George Hurrell style black and whites. Look through his gallery at the jawdropping before and after shots. He also does couples so it might be fun to have a Bogie & Bacall type photo shot.
LittlePrince Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Some people love big asses, so I say flaunt it, weed out the people who don't like it, and focus on attracting the people who appreciate you as you are. I used to try to downplay the fact that I'm tall. Now I realize that some men LOVE it. My full-body shot showcases my nice, looong legs very clearly. And the tall power player guys eat it up. So you take pics of yourself with your arms and legs poking out windows a la Alice in Wonderland with a caption "Oops! Too much Eat Me. Not enough Drink Me."?
verhrzn Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 True. On my dating profiles, I put up a couple of clear face shots and one clear full-body shot. I know how to take good pictures, and I can take pictures of just about anybody (myself included) that make them look gorgeous. (Composition, lighting, angles, environment, etc.) Many people tell me I take the best pictures of them they've ever seen. I've experimented on chat with showing guys different pictures of myself, including the really flattering ones and the less flattering ones - and it's funny to see the different reactions. For my dating profile, I chose pictures that I think really look like me as I am right now, without any whistles and bells. And when I go on dates, the guy usually says he's pleasantly surprised - I'd much rather that than he be disappointed that I don't measure up to my bombshell pics. Hmm, too bad you're not local. I take awful photographs, and I have yet to find a photographer who can do a darn thing about it. It'd be interesting to hear what your take on it.
RedRobin Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 OP, If I were you, I'd do my best to try to strike a balance between someone who is confident enough with their body (in whatever shape it is), age, lifestyle, and choices versus someone who tips the other way and feels the need to use OLD for shameless self-promotion in whatever form it takes. Neither one is attractive. Insecurity or letting attention from OLD go to their head.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Some people love big asses, so I say flaunt it, weed out the people who don't like it, and focus on attracting the people who appreciate you as you are. You are certainly correct, but really, not everyone has the self confidence for that. It would be great if they / we could all develop it soon!
RedRobin Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Hmm, too bad you're not local. I take awful photographs, and I have yet to find a photographer who can do a darn thing about it. It'd be interesting to hear what your take on it. You do NOT take awful pictures. I've seen a couple. It's all in your head. No offense. I've never met you in person. It is possible that you look much better in person than in your pics... if so, you'd be adorable. Except for the negativity. Keep working on that, k? One thing I do like about you Verhrzn... I'm quite sure that, once you develop some confidence, you are going to absolutely rock. The ones who started out insecure and developed confidence over time, I find, tend to end up being alot better people than the ones who are too cocky. The ones who are cocky (even if they have reason to be) are just obnoxious. That's ok though. They usually end up with other obnoxious people who are equally focused on shallow things. To each their own. Oh, to go off topic a bit... I heard a great story on NPR the other day about virtual, online gamers. I seem to remember you were into video games? Maybe I have the wrong person.. anyway, the women there really do need to have a thick skin. It occurred to me that maybe, just maybe, it might be a negative thing for women who are trying to develop some confidence.
sally4sara Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 As much as you complain about OLD profiles and the pics women use, I'd love to read yours and see your photos. Common Big Critic. Show everyone how you get it done. One of the things I've learned in life is people who go looking for flaws the most tend to have a disproportionate amount of their own. 1
RedRobin Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 You are certainly correct, but really, not everyone has the self confidence for that. It would be great if they / we could all develop it soon! Agree. Also, OLD being what it is, there alot of people who use that venue to insult people. I don't blame some of them for wanting some privacy. My objection to people who want to make blanket statements about what pic does or doesn't show is that individuals have very many reasons for showing whatever pics they do. Some have zero to do with insecurity, flaws, or hiding things. They are just screening for something different.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 OP, would you be willing to share some of your own pictures here? With face obscured, of course?
verhrzn Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Oh, to go off topic a bit... I heard a great story on NPR the other day about virtual, online gamers. I seem to remember you were into video games? Maybe I have the wrong person.. anyway, the women there really do need to have a thick skin. It occurred to me that maybe, just maybe, it might be a negative thing for women who are trying to develop some confidence. They're probably referring to FPS (First Person Shooter) kind of environments, like Halo or Gears of War. I don't play those personally, but from my friends' experiences and what I've seen on blogs, yeah, you need to be very, very thick-skinned. I only really do individual games or MMOs, and for the most part, the MMOs are much more forgiving. You do NOT take awful pictures. I've seen a couple. It's all in your head. No offense. None taken, and yes, some of it might be in my head, but for the most part.... seriously, I take bad photos. The ones you've seen are a handful of hundreds that I've rejected... so the ones you've seen are "not bad," and yet are still the creme of the crop. Thus why I need a good photographer's eye. Hey, Ruby, can we see a pic of you sometime?
ThaWholigan Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 They're probably referring to FPS (First Person Shooter) kind of environments, like Halo or Gears of War. I don't play those personally, but from my friends' experiences and what I've seen on blogs, yeah, you need to be very, very thick-skinned. I only really do individual games or MMOs, and for the most part, the MMOs are much more forgiving. None taken, and yes, some of it might be in my head, but for the most part.... seriously, I take bad photos. The ones you've seen are a handful of hundreds that I've rejected... so the ones you've seen are "not bad," and yet are still the creme of the crop. Thus why I need a good photographer's eye. Hey, Ruby, can we see a pic of you sometime? We should also get Gok Wan on the case, he'll have you strutting your stuff in no time . (I can't stand Gok Wan, but I appreciate what he does for women)
verhrzn Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 We should also get Gok Wan on the case, he'll have you strutting your stuff in no time . (I can't stand Gok Wan, but I appreciate what he does for women) Who in the seven hells is that??
ThaWholigan Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Who in the seven hells is that?? He's a flamboyant Chinese man who is a fashion guru and helps to give women more confidence in their appearance. He has a show on Channel 4 over here called How To Look Great Naked or something along those lines. I've not watched a lot of it, but the gist of the show is him basically giving these women more confidence to flaunt it. He's a bit too flamboyant for my own personal liking, but I show appreciation for what he does, I think a lot of women could do with a confidence boost. Anyway, google is your friend
verhrzn Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 He's a flamboyant Chinese man who is a fashion guru and helps to give women more confidence in their appearance. He has a show on Channel 4 over here called How To Look Great Naked or something along those lines. I've not watched a lot of it, but the gist of the show is him basically giving these women more confidence to flaunt it. He's a bit too flamboyant for my own personal liking, but I show appreciation for what he does, I think a lot of women could do with a confidence boost. Anyway, google is your friend I did Google him, and I was still like "What the what?" I dunno, fashion consultants always seem to want to put people in skinny jeans and black-rimmed frames with no prescription glass, two things I am ethically opposed to.
ThaWholigan Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I did Google him, and I was still like "What the what?" I dunno, fashion consultants always seem to want to put people in skinny jeans and black-rimmed frames with no prescription glass, two things I am ethically opposed to. . As far as I'm aware, his work is a little bit more.........sophisticated. I don't know a massive deal because......well, I'm not a Gok Wan fan in general, just that I am a fan of the fact that he gives women confidence.
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