Veryconfused12345 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Right, that's it, after almost a year of pining for him and blaming myself, I thought I was on the verge of getting back together with him. In a moment of panic I turned to him when my mom went into hospital but after telling me he would be there for me, he ran off because he was "too broken" after leaving the girl he cheated on me with. I can't believe I have considered taking him back-I'm sick with anger and disappointment at the little coward. For all those people out there feeling heart broken and like you'll never feel love again, start feeling angry if you receive anything less than a kind and decent end to a relationship. You deserve much more and no one has the right to treat you like a door mat. Your soul mate won't behave in a way to keep you in a state of misery or confusion.
Exit Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Temporary anger is definitely important to healing. Don't let it linger too long. Let the anger open your eyes to the type of person they really are and how they treated you, let the anger move you further along in your healing, but make sure to let go of it and transition away from it after you let it do its job. What you said at the end is correct, people are always talking about how badly they were treated by their "soulmate", by "the one", and we need to realize those statements can't possibly make sense. There is no such thing as "the one who got away". "The one" is going to be the one who stays, the one who works through things with you even when they are mad at you or not entirely thrilled with the relationship. All these people are proving to us is that they are not the one. And soulmates do not necessarily mean they are meant for a lifetime, I've read that soulmates can be meant to enter our lives to teach us a lesson and then to leave. If you believe in past lives and that sort of thing it can just mean that it was somebody we knew previously and we were meant to meet again for a reason, but maybe not to spend a lifetime together.
CopingGal Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 (edited) I think people have a warped sense of the definition of love. To my ex, love means that you constantly try to manipulate the person to get what you want, lie to them all the time, cheat on them, and throw other women in your gfs' and your exs' faces. I asked myself, how can he tell me he loved me when he was using his autistic son in his lies so that he could cheat on me? What kind of bf does that? What kind of father does that? And then tell me while he was doing these things, he loved me. I think people either lie about loving others or just have a very, very strange definition of the word. Once I found out everything he had done to me, I got angry...super angry and I was never his girlfriend or his friend again. I knew an African girl once. Her bf threw bleach in her face. She still continued to see him? Why? Because she was wearing glasses and the glasses blocked the bleach. OMG, she should have gotten angry and stayed away from him. Edited June 1, 2012 by CopingGal
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