Gulf-Delta Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I've lost track of how long NC has been. It's kind of irrelevant. But the pain is still there. If I had to estimate, it's been a month, or a little over, with small breaks here and there. The pain is SLIGHTLY, less intense, but MUCH more frequent. More and more thing remind me of her/us. Things I never paid attention too. My shower, with tiny stains from when she dyed her hair. The doorway to my room, where I used to open up and see our bed, and her. Dishes, we bought together. My living room where we had sex for the first time in this house. My closet, where her clothes used to hang....I'm just now starting to notice all the little things... It's freaking everywhere and all of these things trigger memories and pain. It isn't debilitating like it used to be, but it still hurts for a minute or two.
Renard99 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Don't worry mate, you'll get there. I know exactly how you feel. I'm still in the same house that i shared with my ex. Like you, every little thing reminded me of what went on in the house. My one piece of advice to you would be to try and rearrange furniture as much as possible, or, if you can afford it, go one step and replace as much furniture as you can. This does two things. First of all, it makes the house seem new even though it's just the layout that's changed, and second, it gives you something to focus on. It took me the best part of a week to plan and then do the whole switch around. I was able to de-clutter the house at the same time and managed to get rid of some small things that were lying around the house that were reminders too.
Exit Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Don't know your situation but if it doesn't get better after a while you could always move. That's not something to worry about 1 month into it though, I mean if next year you're still haunted by the memories attached to that place then there's no reason not to go somewhere new. I think I need to bail on my apartment, too many bad memories. But anyways, short of actually moving, Renard99 made some good points, change it up, move the furniture, buy new dishes, scrub those hair dye stains away, etc. Sorry to say I'm 7 months single and still am reminded of her all the time so I can't exactly promise that you'll feel better in a week. It's all about your own way of healing. I am probably the worst person at letting things go so hopefully you can feel better quicker than me.
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