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Women who go for Bad Boys after a certain age are pathetic

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Feelsgoodman Established Member

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When we are children, girls are disciplined more than boys are. We are expected to behave ourselves, boys are given more allowance to misbehave. Boys will be boys, as we like to say.

Which planet do you live on? Most young girls nowadays are terribly spoiled. The word 'discipline' doesn't even register in their vocabulary. I see these spoiled, loud mouth teenage brats at the mall all the time. They run around in packs being loud and obnoxious, screech about lady gaga and iphones and weed and latest fashion accessories. If those mythical "disciplined" young females that you are referring to exist anywhere, it's certainly not in North America.

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phineas Established Member

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Which planet do you live on? Most young girls nowadays are terribly spoiled. The word 'discipline' doesn't even register in their vocabulary. I see these spoiled, loud mouth teenage brats at the mall all the time. They run around in packs being loud and obnoxious, screech about lady gaga and iphones and weed and latest fashion accessories. If those mythical "disciplined" young females that you are referring to exist anywhere, it's certainly not in North America.

 

You forgot the skin tight sweat pants with the words "PINK" on the ass.

RedDevil66 Established Member

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It all depends on what you consider a "bad boy"

 

I have a history of dating "bad boys" and I'm a really independent, strong, beautiful and a well adjusted woman. But I have always struggle with my self esteem due to the fact that I had some health issues which always made me feel like I could not date men "above" me.

I have tons going for me, but always "dated down" just to make life easier for me......

 

I've been in 4 very long term relationships. Two were obvious bad boys from the start, but the others were men in suits, good jobs, nice families, kids etc.....

I was NOT interested at all in the ex I was with for 5 yrs when I first met him

He was a "suit", boring, had kids etc......he pursued me and my friends said it was time I date a "good boy". So I did!

Well low and behold, a yr into it, I realized he was/is an alcoholic, manipulator etc. Then after 5 yrs with him, figured out he was cheating, lying etc. I left him as soon as I caught him cheating.

Now, he was a bad boy in the sense that he had a serious personality disorder and turned out to be a creep.

 

The guy I dated after him, I met on line, muscles, HOT AS H%LL and yes a real bad boy, A bad past etc.....But I never wanted more than a hang out friend. Yes the sex was THE BEST and kept me hooked.

Our "hang out friendship" started to turn into more, I actually considered it because in the last 10 yrs of his life, he worked hard on changing his life, but still had a lot of issues.

Yes, I felt I could fix him. I work in the medical field and my job is to fix soooooo......

I am NOT at all attracted to "good guys" though I would love to have a good man who is honest, treats me well, takes care of himself etc but has a little "bad boy" in him.....

I've met and dated some really nice men, but I was turned off by the 3rd date.

 

Now does this make me pathetic (I'm 46 by the way)? In a way, it may because I know what I'm getting myself into. It's not that I want bad men, I just seem to attract them and are attracted to them.

It's something I work on daily.

 

It's really tough to date in this day and age being over 40 and there are slim pickings out there and so many are jaded, guarded and just plain unhappy.

 

There is no black and white here, we are all complex and have varied reasons for our choices. For me, I am still so attracted to my last ex I cannot see straight, but I know I can never have a loving relationship with him.

RedDevil66 Established Member

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Hot girls are pretty poor at seduction typically. They don't have the social intelligence for it due to their favored status.

 

I'm a hot girl and can assure you, you're not correct.

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Negative Nancy Established Member

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You forgot the skin tight sweat pants with the words "PINK" on the ass.

 

let's not pretend that men who bash these women most likely enjoy the view of those "skin tight sweat pants"...which makes your statement completely hypocritical :rolleyes:

Mrlonelyone Established Member

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Where do people get this nonsense that "bad boys" are more hung or better in bed?

 

To be honest I may have had more sex with more men than many of the women on this board and in my experience that's not true. Relatively speaking most of the best I have had have been nice, assumed the "male" postion in our intercourse, were hung like a blue whale, strong as an ox, and wouldn't hurt a fly.

 

While some of the most pathetic lovers I have had were bad boys. Gang leader type bad boys, take bribes and go to prison bad boys, know former presidents and have probably ordered killings bad boys, crooked cop bad boys. Those bad boys... had the fantasy of being dominated and rammed and having their mouth filled by a well hung tranny (me).

 

So lets get this right. Bad boys are probably covering up for their being a total wimp on the inside.

 

You want a real man. Look to the man who takes care of his wife and kids. He has edge and may fool around from time to time, but mostly he has the mettle and spine to do the daily grind. Bad boys are just boys, and trust me simply being a biological male over a certain age does not make one an adult.

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RedDevil66 Established Member

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I don't think it's a physical thing when it comes to "great sex" with bad boys, I think it's a bond so to speak with the bad boy and the person.

There is more of an emotional component to the great sex than the physical one.

One some level, women (like me) who find bad boys sexy, often find the sex emotionally charged.

My last ex is not well hung or the best lover, but the emotions we both felt were pretty intense.

RedDevil66 Established Member

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Where do people get this nonsense that "bad boys" are more hung or better in bed?

 

To be honest I may have had more sex with more men than many of the women on this board and in my experience that's not true. Relatively speaking most of the best I have had have been nice, assumed the "male" postion in our intercourse, were hung like a blue whale, strong as an ox, and wouldn't hurt a fly.

 

While some of the most pathetic lovers I have had were bad boys. Gang leader type bad boys, take bribes and go to prison bad boys, know former presidents and have probably ordered killings bad boys, crooked cop bad boys. Those bad boys... had the fantasy of being dominated and rammed and having their mouth filled by a well hung tranny (me).

 

So lets get this right. Bad boys are probably covering up for their being a total wimp on the inside.

 

You want a real man. Look to the man who takes care of his wife and kids. He has edge and may fool around from time to time, but mostly he has the mettle and spine to do the daily grind. Bad boys are just boys, and trust me simply being a biological male over a certain age does not make one an adult.

 

 

well said! these men are hard to find

Content Established Member

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Where do people get this nonsense that "bad boys" are more hung or better in bed?

 

To be honest I may have had more sex with more men than many of the women on this board and in my experience that's not true. Relatively speaking most of the best I have had have been nice, assumed the "male" postion in our intercourse, were hung like a blue whale, strong as an ox, and wouldn't hurt a fly.

 

While some of the most pathetic lovers I have had were bad boys. Gang leader type bad boys, take bribes and go to prison bad boys, know former presidents and have probably ordered killings bad boys, crooked cop bad boys. Those bad boys... had the fantasy of being dominated and rammed and having their mouth filled by a well hung tranny (me).

 

So lets get this right. Bad boys are probably covering up for their being a total wimp on the inside.

 

You want a real man. Look to the man who takes care of his wife and kids. He has edge and may fool around from time to time, but mostly he has the mettle and spine to do the daily grind. Bad boys are just boys, and trust me simply being a biological male over a certain age does not make one an adult.

 

its an "image" thing with women from watching too many movies nothing more and it has little substance and usually just sounds cool and rebellious to them

 

Theres no correlation to a guy being a douchebag or not a great guy and good in bed,its almost sad a grownup human being generalizes that much like a naive child

 

No sane person wants somebody "bad" some women just like the term and image in their head in reality the term means little

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My ex-bf is a bad boy as well...while the sex was amazing with him, there definitely were alot of issues to deal with...he may have been a "tough Guy" on the outside, but in the grand scheme of things, he is a narcissitic baby, who needs to always get his way...I never really gravitated towards this type of man before..Im 47, but now that I have had a taste:rolleyes: of bad boys, its delightfully different...LOL!

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I think that bad boys and hot girls just learn very fast how to finesse the opposite sex and get what they want from them. They are seductive and make it seem like so much fun. Even if they are unreliable and inconsistent, when they are on, they are very on. They're like those AOL retention experts who masterfully get people to stay on and keep paying for flaky service. :p

 

The reason I think it's a good thing that I waited till my 30s to get involved with anything close to a bad boy is that I'm a lot smarter than them now and can handle them. If I'd gotten mixed up with them in my 20s, when I was stupid and naive, I probably would have gotten burned. Now I see right through their crap and can just enjoy them for what they are.

 

i'm the opposite. i couldn't finesse my way out of a paper bag.

zengirl Established Member

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Bad boys have never been my thing, but I don't think the allure is all about sex or that one can only want them in youth. The allure of bad boys is a (sometimes twisted) version of living in the moment. Ruby's posts are good at illustrating that. The problem with bad boys, in your youth, is you may not see them for what they are and may try to CHANGE them. If a woman accepts a bad boy as he is, I don't see the problem with her dating him, as long as she understands he won't change into Mr. Dependable when she wants/needs him to.

 

Really, the best guys (and gals) are a combo of 'bad' and 'dependable.' They have the spontaneity and fun of bad boys/girls without the flakiness. As Ruby says, that's possible, but harder to find and even harder to KEEP. We all start fairly spontaneous --- we just get set in our ways over time and a bit boring.

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