theoris Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Well, first a summary of the unravelling. We're in our early twenties,and were together for 2.5 years and lived together 2. We started out great, of course; mutual first loves, exciting new lives together, being on our own etc...for the first 2 years. Perhaps we got too comfortable in the relationship. We were both pretty laid back/boring people and thus the settling in/comfortable feel of the relationship I thought. I drank more with friends, she went out with friends. There was a lot of trust... But in all regards I always loved her very much and was hoping to spend the rest of my life with her. 6 months ago I find out she "kissed" another guy. I too was guilty of kissing another earlier on, she accepted my mistake and I accepted hers and moved on. Well, while I admitted to my mistake as soon as it happened, she held it in for months, and I had try pry it out of her, seeing that there was something not right in her. After the first month of trying to work it out I could see she was quite out of it, and very distant, "needed space". Displaying all the signs of falling out and "gigs" that I've read of here, denying there was another involved. I believed her, for she was the sweetest most innocent thing in the world right? Well it's hard to give someone space when you live together! It was so hard seeing the girl that I love everday after work and have her practically ignore me. She wouldnt even sleep in the same bed, how was I soo naive! This went on for about a month, and as I really wanted her to get her "space" so we could go back to living in love and happily ever after, I agreed she should stay with a friend for a while. Succintly - She moves out, her email is logged in on my computer, I see an intimate email for some dude, I pack up the rest of her stuff, get house key back, tell her I still love her for some reason, mope for 3 weeks, and feel my life is over... Now, we've had no contact for almost 2 weeks, but 5 days ago and yesterday she sends the generic "how are you?" how the **** do you think I am! Week 1 - worst time of my entire life... besides birth. week 2 - still no eating /sleeping. heavy drinking. second worst week of my life. week 3 - I feel indiferrent at the moment but the roller coaster is sure to plunge! She never was the mind game type. Are these text an ego boost thing for her? Should it be an ego boost for me? how can she get an ego boost from a pathetic drunk?? It seems the no contact dynamic is beyond me. I responded after only 1 hour of sleep all last night saying im broken hearted , for her to run after her new guy , and to leave me alone. im curious of what this made her feel. she didnt respond of course. anyway, begins the no contact anew... thanks
wilsonx Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Yup its an ego boost, it does hurt you so you need to figure out away to stop her from contacting you on your own
ToyWithMe812 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Yea, she's an artificial pod now...can't see any reason you need to reply to her any longer
bamp78 Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 Ahh drinking and sticking by no contact is tough. I too have been in that situation and while I have a ridiculous amount of self control doing NC with ex's doing NC when your drunk can be like weed wacking your yard with nail clippers. The route that i've taken is the second they pop into my head i turn my phone off give it to a close friend and tell them to give it to me the next day. Other than that try to curb your drinking and if you do drink at home put the phone out of sight.
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