pies Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Hi... There's this guy with some trouble in his relationship but I don't know if they will lead into them breaking up... I've liked him for a while and lately he's told me nice stuff, like how he finds me pretty, interesting, how he likes me (I felt like he said it in an ambiguous way), how free he feels when he talks to me (and how awkward he feels towards his GF lately), even told me when he had a dream about me... He reached out to me claiming to be looking for a friendship but I think that he likes me a tiny bit. The other day he even gave me a pet nickname and asked me to give him one too, but I refuse to do so as long as he has a GF (whom he refuses to call "girlfriend" when talking to me, he said it felt weird). It feels like flirting, but I'm not sure. Maybe I'm building castles in the air, most probably that's the case. We've been texting for a while and most times it's me starting the conversation, but it's true that I'm anxious about talking (and I begin stupid conversations and apologize stupidly all the time and feel like I'm being annoying) and when he initiates conversation it usually gets pretty interesting. Should I just wait for him to contact me? I would never accept any kind of cheating on the GF, buuuuut... I am kinda waiting for them to BU (even though somewhere I feel they won't....). I don't want to interfere, just wanted to let it out and just hear if someone's been in a similar situation and what should I do about me!
pteromom Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I think you are smart to not "go there" while he has his girlfriend. But the fact is that he already IS cheating. Let's say they do break up. And he starts going out with you. And you fall for him. And he's flirting with another girl. And giving her a pet name. And tells her he's dreaming about her. And won't acknowledge you around her. Would you like that? That is what he is doing to his current girlfriend, and there's no reason he won't do the same thing to you. I think this guy is already showing you who he is, and you should be paying more attention to his actions than to the butterflies he makes you feel.
Stoneman70 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Does he call you? If a guy likes you, he will call you. He will want to talk to you all the time. I think you should wait and see if they break up before going further. It seems he is testing you to see what he can get from you. It might be purely sexual for him. I don't know...but I wouldn't pursue him anymore at this time. If you two are just texting and he's flirty, he seems like a player to me. You deserve better.
Author pies Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 @Pteromom you're right... I've thought about that hundreds of times. But there's the fact that he has caught his GF still hung up on the ex and he felts quite bitter about that. Anyway, if he ever broke up with her I wouldn't jump on a relationship with him in case he would pursue it. I got out of a relationship not long ago and I don't wish to rebound on someone, much less have someone rebound on me. @Stoneman70 he doesn't call me, and the texts aren't really THAT kind of flirting. We mostly talk about feelings, literature and interesting stuff. Then again, I might me exaggerating. The time he dreamt about me it was a stupid thing, nothing romantic (that I know of). The nickname he gave me was because he was calling me dude all the time and I told him I disliked it. So these are ambiguous signs all the time. I might be just imagining stuff.
pteromom Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 But there's the fact that he has caught his GF still hung up on the ex and he felts quite bitter about that. Of course he does. They ALWAYS have a valid reason. So I guess if you end up in a relationship with him, you should take care to stay on your best behavior at all times so you give him nothing to be quite bitter about... I would look elsewhere for a man if I were in your shoes.
Author pies Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 Of course he does. They ALWAYS have a valid reason. So I guess if you end up in a relationship with him, you should take care to stay on your best behavior at all times so you give him nothing to be quite bitter about... I would look elsewhere for a man if I were in your shoes. Thank you for your advice, I tell myself the same from my rational side.
2sunny Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Since you aren't just moving forward and living YOUR life - he answer is yes to both questions. You are waiting for something and nothing. Nothing is actually something - which he's offered nothing. 1
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