a021 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Flaky older man, mixed signals? About 3 months ago I met this older guy and we both instantly had a connection. It was one of those "wow.. what was that?!" moments. We ended up getting each others numbers and then would text everyday, almost all day long. When we finally hung out it was a great date and I started to really like the guy. We have hung out quite a few times since, and we do have a great connection and he has said he wants this to turn into something more. But lately things have been different, he doesnt text me as much and I seem to be last on his list of priorities. He is also very flaky... we will make plans and he will later text me and say he cant hang out because hes too tired or something. then the next time we see each other he will tell me he went out for beers with his buddies and wont try and hide the fact that he ditched to go see his buddies! This REALLY confused me, hes very honest and says whats on his mind but I have no idea what kind of message hes trying to send. On the other hand when I confronted him about the things i'm confused with he said this to me "I really like you and I'm not going to let you go, but if I'm not texting you its because I'm busy or I just dont feel like it" Thanks for the honesty, but ouch! I need more than that bud. Now, I am 21 and this guy is 33...I know that he is set in his ways and he likes things a certain way. I feel like its hard for me to understand him because I haven't ever dated a guy that much older than me. He treats me very nice when we hang out and i feel like he does want to keep seeing me, and hes very open to communicating about whats going on. He has told me I can over think things sometimes... which is true. But how could you not in this situation? haha How do I get him to open up about what's really going on, without seeming too pushy? I want to see where things go with him, I really like him and I see potential. I'm so confused by him though, i'm not really sure what steps to take. Give him his space and let him come to me? Or should I go for what I want and be bold about it? help!!!
carhill Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 His words and actions aren't matching up. With guys his age, the usual dust in the coal mine is another woman. YMMV on that. Personally, I'd move on. A young lady your age doesn't lack for options so enjoy them. 1
FitChick Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 The use of the word "flaky" on LS is interesting. What it really means in a dating context is that the other person isn't interested or isn't interested enough to make time for you or date you.
2sunny Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 His words and actions aren't matching up. With guys his age, the usual dust in the coal mine is another woman. YMMV on that. Personally, I'd move on. A young lady your age doesn't lack for options so enjoy them. I agree. When the words and actions don't match - there's a lie in there somewhere.
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