Girlfriend kissed someone while drunk, but knew what she was doing

[humpty]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost two years now. I'm 19 and shes 20. So last night a guy, we met a party 2 weeks ago, was having his own 21rst birthday party. 2 years ago me and my girlfriend hooked up 1 night. This was the first time we ever met each other. Than only a week later she hooked up with this guy who had the party last night. I'm ok with this because we both didn't no we would hook up again and eventually become a couple. Me and my girlfriend are a really good couple and we both love each other.

So last night, I was working and my shift didn't finish until 10pm. I asked my girlfriend could I go but she said there was no point since she will be going home at half 12.

While I was asleep last night I got a call of my girlfriend at 3:15 am saying she had kissed the guy.

In Ireland there is a tradition at a 21rst birthday party that the birthday boy or girl receives 21 kisses. My girlfriend was one of these.

I'm so confused about what to do. I love my girlfriend so much and we even talked about getting married one day but I can't help but feel betrayed and cheated on. I talked to her today about it and she wasn't really sorry, she just said its a joke. But come on like. It was the first night ever I wasn't with her and she does that.

What should I do? I don't no whether to break up or not. I don't want to break up but I feel like I can't trust her anymore. Especially after her saying she will be home at half 12. I could have went to the party if she said she wasn't going to be home until 3.

Advice please?

[Philosoraptor]

Was it a makeout session or part of the tradition? If it is tradition I wouldn't worry so much about a peck on the lips.

[humpty]

Yeah the tradition is a peck on the lips from 20 girls but on the 21rst they make out. But hers was a peck.

[dasein]

She should know better than to be part of such a tradition with a guy whom she has hooked up with in the past whom you know about. I agree that her getting home that late was disrespectful also. However, this is probably not a breakup offense.

 

In your shoes, if a GF contrived to go to a party without you where a guy she had hooked up with in the past would be kissed, then calls you to tell you about it that night very late, would be pissed because either a) she is trying to manipulate you and push your buttons, or b) more went on that just a tradition kiss or why on earth would she feel so pressed to wake you up and tell you about it? That's very fishy. Good luck whatever you decide.

[Chi townD]

Um.....I wouldn't be too pissed about it. But, I would be a little upset. However, you said that she didn't feel guilty about it; yet, she calls you at 3:15 in the morning to tell you about it. Thus, I have a feeling that she did feel a little guilty to call you in the middle of the night.

 

Therefore! I would check with other people at the party to see if this is what actually happened or is there more to the story. If it was just a peck to go along with a tradition (and I'm and Irish American and have friends FROM Ireland and I've never heard of this, I got ripped off!) then why would she feel compelled to ring you in the middle of the night to tell you about it?

 

Cheaters will only tell you the bare minimum so it doesn't seem as bad as what it ACTUALLY is. This may be me being paranoid, but, I think she wanted to be the first to tell you about the events of the night. So, if someone says something to you. You would say, " Oh Saturday? Yeah, she told me what happened." So, what ACTUALLY happened and what she told you happened are two different things.

 

I just think it's odd that she calls you up in the middle of the night to inform you of her participating in a tradition that you are fully aware of.

[Joaquin]

It's nothing. That's not worth wetting your knickers over.

 

At that age they are bound to have been with a few of the party goers in the past. And the tradition is to get kisses from the girls. No biggie. And sometimes when having fun you stay out longer than planned.

 

And a your drunk gf calling you late at night. What's new with that.

Edited May 31, 2012 by Joaquin

[JustJoe]

Dude, you need to mature a little. Your GF went to a birthday party , gave a guy a peck and you are acting like it's the end of the world. She did it for his birthday and was honest enough to call you and tell you, right? So the only person having issues with this is you. You need to work on your own trust issues and not hers, she was completely honest with you. If you are going to spaz out over something trivial like this, what's going to happen when you have something really bad happen to you? The danger here is that because you are coming across as being immature and needy that she will lose respect for you. Man-up.