zerovandez Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 So I've recently had my heart annihilated this last month and remained NC for about a month now with my ex. During my NC, there's a woman that seems to be interested but really hard to read most of time. I met this girl a couple of years ago during my stay/visit with a friend about 5hrs car drive away. When I first met her, I was a little overweight and out of shape. Well, a lot has changed since then and during my last visit there, which was a few months ago, she seemed to be a little interested. She sat next to me while I was sitting alone and relaxing. We had a nice conversation about random things but was interrupted because we were having drinks with mutual friends. The night was fun but I had to drive home the next morning. So a few days pass and I guess she took some pictures of the night and sent them to me via text message after I got home. Well, I NEVER gave her my number to begin with. This is a sign of attraction? Since she sent that picture, we've been talking on and off about random stuff or just checking up on each other with her doing most of the initial contact. Funny thing is, I never really liked her personality. It was very dry in humor and she seems very overbearing, but she's a pretty girl. Most of our conversations are senseless stabs of bantar which, she doesn't seem to mind and I find it humorous. So she takes a trip to SE Asia for a month and I NEVER contacted her. A few days upon her return, she text me to ask me how I was doing. I was heartbroken and in a mess and I told her about it. She was speechless for the most part but gave some good advice and seemed really understanding. Even after that, she continued to text me.... So a few nights ago, we text for 2 hours (she's not the phone kind of girl). We go back and forth on a few senseless topics and then, I confessed my interest in her. I told her that I was interested the last time we hung out and I wished we could have talked more. She expressed the same and that I was confusing because she thought that's what I wanted but she had her doubts. So a few LOL's later on text, we ended the night. Mind you that she is talking to someone local to her, but she says that the spark with him is dying down and he is moving states in August. So now that I confessed my interest, I'm not sure how to keep her interested. The other day she text me and it went something like this.... her: hey future boo, how are you?! LOL me: I'm fine. Future boo huh? What's that mean? her: LOL, yes boo me: So is a boo someone you're exclusively dating or? her: perhaps a main squeeze lol me: so I don't get it, if boo #1 is moving a few hours out and you're still interested in him but you don't want an LDR, and boo #2 is 5hr drive away, what's the difference? her: Things with boo#1 are a little shaky, plus we agreed that when he moves, that will officially end things. her: I haven't dated an asian guy since 2004. me: I'm not your normal asian guy her: we'll see The rest of the conversation went smooth, again, more bantar but we get to this point where I told her that it was funny that we have this "thing" going on. And I was meaning that we're talking and having fun while none of our mutual friends know's, I think that's funny. Her response was that there's no "thing" and says that we're just having fun. I quickly shifted the conversation to another topic and she follow's. So now we're talking about how her roomies (my friends) are leaving for month and she will be lonely. I said, I'm sure we can fix that, it would be a perfect opportunity! I think you know where I'm getting at. She says LOL. and that pretty much sums up the night. The next day, she says, Hi, hoping you're enjoying the weather, which I replied and said I was. Today is silent. I feel as if she thinks I'm trying to force something upon her; relationship, a visit, or something. How can I switch this up and keep her wanting to talk to me more?
Author zerovandez Posted June 1, 2012 Author Posted June 1, 2012 Or am i just reading into it too much?
LittlePrince Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Is she interested? How to keep her if she is?Well there are a myriad of carrying cases for pets.
lso802 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 no more talking. get her to go out with you. do you just want to be her buddy?
Author zerovandez Posted June 1, 2012 Author Posted June 1, 2012 Kind of hard when she lives 5 hours away. But I'm trying to suggest that we meet or take a trip without being too direct about it, but I'm not beating around bushes either. She know's I don't have a problem driving or flying out there. I think I will have to just let her make the moves. In all honesty, I'm so not over my ex but I'm trying. So juming into this "date" would probably do more harm than good to me.
Oxy Moronovich Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Go for the rebound sex, man. It will feel good when you're finally done coping with your loss.
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