boobookitty Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Background story: I dated this guy for about 2.5 years and for the last few months of it - he was in Miami and I was in SC. Then he tells me after one of my spring breaks that he wants to take a break, but we weren't breaking up. I kinda knew better, but decided ok sure. So about a month later he just changes his facebook status from in a relationship to single. I found out during class and was really upset even though I had a feeling it was coming. So I wanted to find out what exactly happened and why he was ending it and his new gf (that I found out later he was cheating on me with) got mad and told me off. So I did what I could to move on. It was hard, but I eventually managed. I hooked up with one guy, but that's all it was - just a hook up and after a little while I wanted more but he didn't so I ended that. I ended up dating my best friend for almost a year. However, the distance got to me and so I broke it off. We still talk and are best friends. A couple months later I met a guy at my apartment complex who wanted to date me, but I told him I wasn't ready. We hung out every day though, and he wouldn't give up on me no matter what I said/did. So two months later I realized something. I was in a sense subconciously testing him to see if he cared, would stick with me no matter how hard things got, etc. I didn't want to end up hurt again, and luckily he didn't give up, and we're still dating now (9 months later). Well a month after my boyfriend and I start dating, my first ex decides to contact me - it's been over a year. He called and left a voicemail said he needed the name of the apartment complex we lived in. So I called back and told him it and we hung up. A couple days later he called again, but I refused to answer. He then continued to blow up my phone calling about every two minutes. So then he IMs me and I asked if he needs something otherwise to leave me alone. He then just sent message after message on how he misses me, and still loves me. Then he asked me to cheat on my bf to hook up with him, and he'd chat on his new gf. I said no and this went on for a month or so, and I'd ignore him and then I told him to stop contacting me. He agreed to, and 2-3 months later contacted me again saying he can't ignore talking. Then he said we don't have to hook up, but he asked me to send him pics of me, and I refused and told him not to contact me any more. He still tries to every so often and I ignore him, but he still tries. I can block him on AIM, but since he knows my sn, he can just get a new one and keep IMing me. He doesn't call any more which is good because verizon is bad with blocking numbers. I'm not sure what to do though. I can't do too much, because if he gets mad or something - he's the type of guy who would involve my family (he still has my number, so he probably still has my mom's number and he's already cursed her out before, and she called me crying .. plus I'm pretty sure he remembers where my mom's house is)
LostInLimbo Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Call the Police for harassment and as well a restraining order, that should do it. LiL
Philosoraptor Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Good for you for staying strong. He's regretting his decision but he needs to understand that he will have to live with his choices. Anyone who is willing to cheat isn't someone you want to be with anyways so you've dodged a bullet. It sounds like you're doing all that you can right now so just keep at it and hopefully at some point he will get the hint. If it continues though you may need to contact the authorities.
stillafool Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Also the next time he contacts you have your new bf contact him back and tell him to leave you alone per your previous instructions.
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